Post # 1
I am currently 5 months pregnant, and i was on EI for a year now and cut off. So i cant get hired cause no one wants apregnant chick then off in a few months. I applyed for social assitance but they wont help me out cause my husband works. He doesnt make enough to pay all our bills and baby not too far away. I am sooo scared and dont know what to do????
Post # 3
@Daisys4U: All I can say, is to try to be calm and relax. Stress cannot be good for the baby. And just have faith that things will turn out fine. Maybe consider finding a type of job where you can work at home. Maybe babysitting or making stuff and selling it on etsy or selling old stuff on ebay. Just in the meantime until you’re able to get a job. I will pray for you and your family. Good Luck! And congrats on your new baby!
Post # 4
I would say to just keep looking. I know someone who got hired about a month ago and she was 4-5 months pregnant at the time. Also, at my job, in June, they hired a girl who was 8 months pregnant. So keep looking and like it was said, maybe offer to babysit or find something you can make and sell online. Congrats on the baby and good luck!
Post # 5
Can you stay with your parents? I would try to cutback and save as much as you can and get as much gifted/free for the baby as you can. If you can’t afford your bills, get rid of ALL non-essentials like cable, cell phones, etc. If you have car payments sell the car to pay off your debt owed. My friend has a great blog entry about saving money and paying off debt. You can check it out here:
Post # 6
I agree the above suggestions are good. I watched children in my home and worked as a waitress during the evenings. I’ve seen many pregnant waitresses, one girl I know waited tables until she was eight months. You could try daycares, Dollar General says right on the application they will not discriminate against pregnant women, and if all else fails go to an agency like Manpower to help you find something even if it’s temp work.
Try to relax, take a nice long bath. It will work out in the end, stay positive for your family. I have faith that you can do this.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies for your support. I just woke up and cant sleep cause i feel like i am disapointing my family. It feels like i am running till the last moment to find something thats not there. I really hope i can come out a head. I even tried to start a training program with EI to see if i can get in with them paying for my school and living expence and seems like its a no go situation. They want me to go to a 5 week work shop to find work. Which is not what i want to do, i want to find a career thats stable. I am at the point though that i have no choice to take something small then see what happens from there.
Post # 8
There are always jobs – you just have to lower your standard.
Work at a coffee shop, a restaurant, a dollar store, any retail store for that matter!
Post # 9
Any job is better then no job, even if you won’t get a paid maternity leave. You can keep the bills up to date and then as soon as you physically feel up to it get back to work once the baby comes. It’s not easy by any means, but you have to do what you have to do to take care of that little baby:)
Don’t worry about disapointing your family, I am sure that that is not even a thought in their mind. They are probably just worried about you.
Post # 10
It is illegal to NOT hire someone because of their pregnancy status.
There are a lot of office jobs – temp agencies, etc – that wouldn’t care and frankly legally can’t. Try a law firm or something like that.
Temp agencies will place you and some of them have short term disability plans.
Maternity leave is apparently hard to find. I work for the federal government and won’t get it. It sucks.
Post # 11
A temp agency might be a good route to try, especially with companies looking for holiday workers. You can apply for Meidcaid if you don’t have health insurance and your husband makes a low enough amount of money. It would cover you for the pregnancy and cover the baby later. Get on WIC for food, it’s available to pregant woman. See if your church or a local crisis pregancy center could help with baby gear.
If you did the five week training would you be eligible for EI while you are training? IF so, it might be worth even if you can’t find a job later.
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Find out the number for Catholic Charities in your area. My local chapter devotes a lot of resources to helping pregnant women (part of the pro-life thing). You don’t have to be any religion to get aid.
Post # 14
On the baby equipment side of things, try to see if your area has a freecycle program. It’s internet-based, and people post items they are willing to give for free. You have to be the first to respond, and the ‘giver’ will put it on their front porch for you to pick up.
I agree with other posters, try to relax, pray, meditate, take a warm bath, take a walk, whatever might help your stress levels. It’s a big deal to have a baby and to be on one income (I’m with you there), but stress will only make you feel worse about yourself. You are in the middle of one of the most unique experiences we women can have in life, and I’d hate to see anxiety rob you of some of the joy or happiness of it.
Post # 15
i second @Magdalena:. Try your local Catholic Charities or any local Pregnancy Assistance Center. Almost all of them work with job placement as well as anything you may need and help with medical care if necessary…. regardless of faith.
You can also try to Nanny/babysit
And like mentioned… it’s illegal to not hire you due to your pregnancy. They can’t ask you questions about it… maybe a gentle reminder to the interviewer if it comes up…
Post # 16
Oh honey I have been there! I was 18 and just out of high school when I got pregnant with my son. My husband (boyfriend at the time) was unemployed. I was in school full time while he tried and tried for months to get hired somewhere. My best advice is if you have a faith to focus on it! Pray and pray HARD! IT DOES GET BETTER!
Apply at places like Wal-mart, Target, and other chain stores. They can affored losing a girl for a few months for maternity leave. I know it all feels impossible right now but keep trying remember that you are your husbands rock and he is yours.
Def. get WIC if you already haven’t! Cut off your cable/internet. Grocery shop at stores like Aldes, Save-A-Lot and Wal-mart. Turn off all your lights in the house whenever your not using them and un-plug all outlets before bed. (You’ll be amazed at how much this can save you!) I know this is all so much but this is where you do what you have to, to make it work!
RELAX! Remember God has a plan and a way for you both if you let him. And don’t refer to yourself as a “pregnant chick”. Your a mother now. It’s time to start thinking, walking, talking and living like a mother. Respect yourself and your situation and others will too! Including potential employers! Good luck and keep your chin up!