- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Alright bees. I’m upset..
When FI and I got engaged in Sept ’11, I nicely asked my SIL and sister to try to not be 9 months pregnant at my wedding. (Which I lated realized probably wasn’t the nicest thing to ask, but I still feel it’s semi-justified. Please don’t harp on it.) They’re both important family members in my life; I really wanted both of them there. I told them both I would happily have a pregnant bridesmaid (I think it makes the cutest pictures!) or make accomodations for them to have a newborn (sitter, extra family member present, crib, transportation, whatever!), but it would mean so much for them to just be present at my wedding.
Flash forward. My sister (and MOH) told us that after trying for a couple months, she’s pregnant and due four days before my wedding. She backed down from being MOH after deciding she didn’t want to buy a dress and most likely not get to wear it. (She’ll either be 9mo pregnant or nursing a week-old newborn) Either way, I doubt she’ll even make it to my wedding. (Should I pay the $200 to reserve a seat for her and DH at the reception?)
No big deal, I guess. I’m a little hurt that my big sister backed out of my wedding after trying to get pregnant, but oh well. No harm done.
Flash forward to present day. My parents are gracefully paying for my wedding and a elegant bridal shower. It isn’t easy for them to afford, but my mom has been working her butt off because she wants me to have the wedding she never had.
My sister wants a baby shower, and of course, she deserves one!! I was so excited to get to work on all the little decorations and details with her! My mom suggested, that since she can’t afford a baby shower, bridal shower, AND wedding within 3 months, that we have a tiny (immediete siblings/parents only) baby reveal party, and a few months after the baby is born have a “Welcome Baby” party to allow everyone to see the new baby and enjoy an open-house style party. (My sister already has many of the necessities for a newborn: some clothes, cribs, food processor, etc. So she would only need to buy a car seat and diapers for those first few months before we have her party)
So here’s the kicker.. a year ago my mom booked my shower location for July 7th. My sister decided she HAD to have a shower BEFORE the baby was born, and that my mom’s suggestions weren’t good enough. So her in-laws will be hosting a shower for her. Totally fine.
Guess when she booked her baby shower??! JUNE 30TH! The week before mine!! … really? I’m so upset. She’s making our family decide which is more important, her baby shower or my bridal shower. Many are coming from out of town and can’t afford to come in two weekends in a row.