Post # 1
Title say it all….. I have not been feeling very normal latley so I decided to take a at home pregnancy test this moring, it was positive. I went into the clinic and it was positive. FI leaves for work at 5:30am so I have not told him yet, I want to wait until he gets home to tell him in person.
Wedding is Sept 27th. We have EVERYTHING and EVERYONE booked… save the dates have been sent. I have done so much DIY.
Children were in our near future but not right now. This is not the plan. It was wedding, house then baby. I have put so much effort into planning this PERFECT wedding It’s hard to vision me walking down the isle pregnant.
Im shocked, happy, excited, sad, dissapointed, mad at myself for being careless with my birth control.
I go in for an ultrasound on Thursday.. I could be anywhere from 2-9 weeks.
I’m ok with being 4.5 months pregnant at the wedding…. but 6 months I dont know if im Ok with that.
I see 3 options, move the wedding up, keep it as is or postpone. I have already asked the venue if they have any open dates to move the wedding up and they do not.
Im not even sure what im looking for right now? Support, suggestions, advice? Anything?
Post # 2
I think you should keep the date as is. If you’re only 4.5 months along, you might not even be showing yet. Also, you’ll be in the second trimester, which is usually the time you feel your best during pregnancy.
Post # 3
Honestly, if you’ll only be about 4-5 months pregnant at the wedding, you may hardly even be showing at that point. First pregnancies tend to take a bit longer before they are obvious.
Also, by that point, it is likely that any nausea you’re suffering from will be over by then too.
Good luck either way. It can be done and things will work out!
Post # 4
We’re wedding date twins and I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t be fearful lately that this would happen to me.
FI and I are planning on TTC immediately after the wedding, so I’m off BC. Every month at “that time” I go through the “if I were pregnant right now, how would it affect the wedding?” freak out. lol
To be honest, at this point you’re totally fine! You won’t be showing (or only a tiny bit), you’ll be in Trimester 2 and feel wonderful. No one will know and you’ll have such exciting news to share!
ENJOY this time of DOUBLE blessing in you life. Congrats!!!
Post # 5
LastGirlStanding: Thank you for that I needed that! I actually have tears right now 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
we are kinda wedding date twins.(9/28/2014) I say keep the wedding as it is. No you didn’t plan this and it’s not ideal. BUT you can make it work. You may have to just let your dress out a lil depending how it’s cut.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
soontobehisbride: maybe go out and get one of those tests that tell you how far along you are, that seems to be a lot of the anxiety 4.5 months vs. 6 months!
Congratulations, this obviously is a huge shock… but things happen for a reason!!
I hope your sharing of the news goes well tonight!!
I also vote you keep everything the same for your wedding!
Post # 8
I would’ve given anything to be pregnant on my wedding day. But we have been trying. I get that it’s a surprise and that you hoped to wait a while, but obviously life had other plans for you. Embrace it. It’s amazing. I really don’t think it should change anything about your wedding plans! Think about how incredible it will be to tell everyone that you’re pregnant at your wedding, I would’ve loved to be able to do that. Congratulations!!!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I agree with the others – it’s a change to your wedding plans for sure, but you can absolutely have the wedding of your dreams AND have the double blessing of a little one on the way too! Except without the boozing I guess, but that’s a small price to pay 🙂
Congratulations, I’m sure it’s a crazy and scary thing to be happening but I bet that once it sinks in, you guys will be psyched!
Post # 10
soontobehisbride: Well, if you’re not ready for a baby right now, you could terminate the pregnancy. I know a couple of happily married couples who got pregnant before they were ready for children, and so they chose to end those pregnancies. Both couples now have happy, healthy kids (two kids and three kids, respectively).
If that’s not something you’re cool with, then the only proper response is to take a deep breath, revise your expectations for the next year, and start getting excited about being a mom! Sometimes amazing things happen when we least expect or plan them. 🙂
Post # 11
Thank you all, im feeling a little less freake out.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
first: CONGRATS!!! Very exciting news, even if it doesn’t feel ideal at this moment 🙂
second: the main concern would be the dress- what does it look like? Can it be let out or have some rouching that would hide even if you somehow started showing at that point?
Post # 13
mixtaperomance: Here is my dress…. my plan is to get a tie up corset back put in and take the zipper out. Im not a fan of corsets but since i need to still bring my dress in for alterations i feel thats the best option that way it can be tighter or loose.
Post # 14
soontobehisbride: That dress is perfect even if you do end up with a little bump. You will be fine, I promise! In both of my pregnancies I didn’t gain weight or start showing until closer to 5 months. With my first it was closer to 6. Of course this is a huge shock but it will all work out in the end.
Post # 15
That looks like the perfect type of dress for a pregnant bride. I don’t think you have anything to worry about there.