Pregnant, wedding is 4 months away.. emotional

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think you should keep the date as is. If you’re only 4.5 months along, you might not even be showing yet. Also, you’ll be in the second trimester, which is usually the time you feel your best during pregnancy.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, if you’ll only be about 4-5 months pregnant at the wedding, you may hardly even be showing at that point. First pregnancies tend to take a bit longer before they are obvious.

Also, by that point, it is likely that any nausea you’re suffering from will be over by then too.

Good luck either way. It can be done and things will work out!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

We’re wedding date twins and I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t be fearful lately that this would happen to me.

FI and I are planning on TTC immediately after the wedding, so I’m off BC. Every month at “that time” I go through the “if I were pregnant right now, how would it affect the wedding?” freak out. lol

To be honest, at this point you’re totally fine!  You won’t be showing (or only a tiny bit), you’ll be in Trimester 2 and feel wonderful. No one will know and you’ll have such exciting news to share!

ENJOY this time of DOUBLE blessing in you life. Congrats!!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

we are kinda wedding date twins.(9/28/2014) I say keep the wedding as it is. No you didn’t plan this and it’s not ideal. BUT you can make it work. You may have to just let your dress out a lil depending how it’s cut.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

soontobehisbride:  maybe go out and get one of those tests that tell you how far along you are, that seems to be a lot of the anxiety 4.5 months vs. 6 months!

Congratulations, this obviously is a huge shock… but things happen for a reason!!

I hope your sharing of the news goes well tonight!!

I also vote you keep everything the same for your wedding! 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would’ve given anything to be pregnant on my wedding day. But we have been trying. I get that it’s a surprise and that you hoped to wait a while, but obviously life had other plans for you. Embrace it. It’s amazing. I really don’t think it should change anything about your wedding plans! Think about how incredible it will be to tell everyone that you’re pregnant at your wedding, I would’ve loved to be able to do that. Congratulations!!!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I agree with the others – it’s a change to your wedding plans for sure, but you can absolutely have the wedding of your dreams AND have the double blessing of a little one on the way too!  Except without the boozing I guess, but that’s a small price to pay 🙂  

Congratulations, I’m sure it’s a crazy and scary thing to be happening but I bet that once it sinks in, you guys will be psyched!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

soontobehisbride:  Well, if you’re not ready for a baby right now, you could terminate the pregnancy. I know a couple of happily married couples who got pregnant before they were ready for children, and so they chose to end those pregnancies. Both couples now have happy, healthy kids (two kids and three kids, respectively).

If that’s not something you’re cool with, then the only proper response is to take a deep breath, revise your expectations for the next year, and start getting excited about being a mom! Sometimes amazing things happen when we least expect or plan them. 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

first: CONGRATS!!! Very exciting news, even if it doesn’t feel ideal at this moment 🙂

second: the main concern would be the dress- what does it look like? Can it be let out or have some rouching that would hide even if you somehow started showing at that point?

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

soontobehisbride:  That dress is perfect even if you do end up with a little bump. You will be fine, I promise! In both of my pregnancies I didn’t gain weight or start showing until closer to 5 months. With my first it was closer to 6. Of course this is a huge shock but it will all work out in the end. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

That looks like the perfect type of dress for a pregnant bride. I don’t think you have anything to worry about there.

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