Post # 1
I feel like Ive been tempting/charting/taking weird meds at certain times to get pregnant and now that I actually am pregnant I feel kind of lost! lol I just found out yesterday so Im still really early but what should I be doing?
And another thing…I am terrible at keeping secrets about me from my family and friends!!!! I talked to my mom daily, sometimes more than once a day, even the last two days I feel like im lying to her! She knows we are actively trying but now I dont know when to tell her! We are all going out to dinner next week and when I dont order a drink I know she is going to know! Would it be ok to tell my parents so early???? Then my friends and I have a girls night once a week, when I dont take a glass of wine they are going to know right away as well! This keeping a secret thing is not going to work for me! lol I obviously wont be announcing it on facebook and i know my family and friends will not blab it to the world and will help keep me undercover on nights out if they did know but still its sooooo early!!! What would you guys do????
Post # 3
If goodness forbid something happened, would you want these people to be there for you? If the answer is yes, then tell whenever you feel comfortable. I told my mom right away, I know some people don’t. Good luck!
Post # 4
Congratulations! I feel like I would read up a ton at this point, call your doctor if you haven’t, to set up an appointment, and start being super healthy.
Regarding who to tell, I totally agree with @Schatzie821:.
Happy and healthy 9 months!
Post # 5
@Leonard2B: I was going to wait until after my first DRs appointment to tell my mom- just to make sure. They didn’t want to see me until I was about 8-10 weeks because besides checking to make sure I was pregnant, it’s not like if there was something wrong with the pregnancy they could do anything to save it before that. So as long as I wasn’t having any sypmtoms of ectopic pregnancy, etc, I went in at 10 weeks.
That plan didn’t work though- a month before, I had taken a job working for my mom’s friend. Her business was sinking, and she ended up letting me go because she couldn’t afford me. My mom felt horrible because she encouraged me to take this job and leave my old one (yes, I wanted to leave my old one- no I didn’t want to leave until I had another job)- so my mom felt horrible after she let me go. She wanted to take me clothes shopping to get some new clothes to go job hunting- and I HAD to tell her I was pregnant then because I didn’t see the point in investing in a bunch of clothes that I didn’t know when I’d fit into next.
Everyone does it differently. Some people feel comfortable sharing the news right away- like the minute they find out. Some people like to wait until they are further along.
I know my friend who has one child- she waited to share for her first, and this time around, she told me the day afte she found out, which was around 6 weeks or so.
Do what you’re comfortable with- obviously you and your mom are very close, so maybe you want to tell her now!
Post # 6
Congratulations! Tell whoever you want. We found out super early and told our parents and best friends when I was 4 weeks. We figured those were the people we would need to be supportive if anything did happen. We now have a perfect 9 week old baby boy.
Post # 7
My best friend told her and her husband’s parents, siblings and me when they found out they were expecting. None of us said anything on facebook or to anyone else. I have known people who told their siblings only to have one of them tell the world on facebook. Make sure to trust who you tell.
Also my friend is a doctor and they knew immediately at the hospital when she started running away from x-ray machines. I work with a police dept and any of the female patrol officers have to tell their supervisor immediately if they are pregnant. They are taken off patrol duty immeditately and an email goes out saying they have been reassigned. So everyone on the force knows.
Post # 8
DH aside, I told my mom right away, we’re very close. I waited until I got my doubling HCG levels back before I told my dad and brother. Then around 8 weeks when we saw a healthy baby and heartbeat I went public. A bit early but I was okay with it.
Post # 9
I told my sister a few days after finding out, my Mom figured it out the day after that…
But I kept it a secret until 8 weeks for everyone else!
Post # 10
@Leonard2B: I would tell them. I told my close family and friends right away. Then of course my parents with their big mouths told everyone. It definitely made me more nervous about having a MC at first. However, at about 11 weeks I started bleeding and everyone was so supportive of me. The baby ended up being okay, but having so many people looking out for me was an amazing feeling. After that I stopped being worried about people knowing. 18 weeks now!
Post # 11
@Leonard2B: This is how my sister announced shes preggers.
haha I would tell whoever you want whenever you want!
Post # 12
Congrats!!! Take your prenatals, make a doc appointment, and eat as many fruits and veggies as you can before your nausea starts in so that you can front-load nutrients if you can’t stomach produce later (I have no idea if that really works but I totally did that because it just seemed to make sense haha).
The first few days are so weird I think because this HUGE GIANT THING just happened and yet you’re not supposed to say anything and just continue on with your life as normal— HOW? haha. I’m like you, I talk to my mom every day and I didn’t tell her for 4 days and it seemed like forevvvver. I just wanted to wait until I could see her in person, and she said she was so glad I did tell her in person so she could hug me. 🙂 I also told my good friends right away because I tell them everything else, so why not? I’d tell them if I had a miscarriage so it just made sense to me to tell them when I got my bfp.
Post # 13
@Leonard2B: I told most of my friends right away. I am not a good secret keeper. So the super close ones new immediately at 3w6d. The rest trickled in within a few weeks. I told my parents a little later- maybe around 5 or 6w bc I was trying to hold out & tell them in person.
I told my then boss that first day bc we were close. I was moving to a new team and didn’t say anything to my new boss until 10w (I set him up with a meeting in a conference room to scare him. He thought I was quitting! So funny!). I told Facebook at 11w.
There are no rules- it is whatever your comfortable with!
Post # 14
I’m not pregnant, but I would say feel free to tell anyone that you would feel comfortable telling if there was a problem. For example, I would probably only tell my parents, as they would be a huge support for me and FI if we MC’d, however I wouldn’t tell his family until 12 weeks, as I don’t think his parents would be supportive. His mother would probably blame me for doing something wrong during the pregnancy, and his father would most likely make rude comments about it when he has one of his bipolar episodes, and figure a half-assed apology would make it better later since “we’re family”.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone! We have made the decision to tell just a few people. I called my best friend who just had a baby last week and knows we have been trying so I wanted her to know! Plus she will give me all her awesome maternity wear! Im waiting to tell my parents and sister this weekend in person, they would probably be mad at me if I didnt. Although my mom called me this morning to tell me they were thinking of going to the casino today (5 minutes from my house 2 hour drive for them!) so if they decide to stop by I might have to tell them today!
@pocketfox: We told my inlaws yesterday when they made a surprise visit to our house yesterday, their response was oh how nice now you can finally fill up another room in this gigantic house and good luck with all the extra bills. Womp Womp so not what I wanted to hear! Not that they arent supportive but his family does not get excited over anything and they already have 6 grandkids.
I can not wait to tell my parents! It will be the first grandkid and first great grand kid for my papa so excited to tell him as well!
I will tell a few of my other close friends right away, the rest of the family we will tell around Thanksgiving and everyone else around Christmas!
@CorgiTales: Im having this problem right now at work. How the heck am I suppose to act normal?!??! I am still debating on when telling the people here. The girl I work with side by side will probably need to know asap. My manager Ill tell at the end of the year or beginning of next after i get my raise lol
My doctor was sooo good, I called this morning and I have an appointment for tomorrow morning!! I didnt think she would take me this soon but I am happy about it!
Post # 16
One question for you ladies…How do you get your husband on board with this? Mines in a little bit of shell shock right now. Since we have been trying I think he gave up hope and now that he knows hes almost in denial lol