Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a Catholic ceremony and we are meeting with the monsignor this Saturday for our preliminary meeting. I have to say I’m nervous. I don’t know what to expect. Anyone who has gone through this, could you tell me what I should expect?
Post # 3
I’m going to answer this and move it over to the Catholic board- it might better get your target audience.
Our preliminary meeting involved some discussion of our date, the stuff that would be required for the wedding (fees, paperwork, etc), and there was some discussion about my FI not being Catholic and what that would involve. It was mostly logistics- especially since my FI and I were already on the same page in terms of him not being Catholic (we had discussed it all at length).
I understand the nerves, but I’m sure it will be fine. Good luck!
Post # 4
Thanks rosychicklet! I forgot there was a Catholic board.
I should also clarify that we are having our wedding in another church (in another state). We’re meeting with the monsignor in hopes that the church will allow us to have the precana sessions there since it’s close to our home.
Post # 5
Hi, Valerie! I understand being a little nervous, but I think your meeting will be pretty painless. Our first meeting with the monsignor was mostly him telling us what kind of paperwork we needed to complete before the wedding (like getting copies of baptismal/confirmation records, getting the payment check in, etc…). We also received a book called "Together for Life" that had all the approved readings/psalms/etc.. so we could pick what we wanted in the ceremony. If you haven’t yet completed (or started!) your Pre-Cana course, he might tell you about your options for that. You also might want to take that time to find out about church policies on music, photography, birdseed/rice/confetti/flower petals, and appropriate dress.
All in all, it was very fast and nothing to be worried about. Hope this helps!
Post # 6
Valerie- we did the same thing- we did Pre-Cana near our home, but met with the priest at the church we were getting married in early on. It worked out fine for us.
Post # 7
At my first meeting with the priest (the one in the town where I live, not the town out of state where I’m getting married) he mostly asked us questions to fill out the preliminary paperwork. You’ll get asked about where you were born, your religions, where your parents were born, what your addresses are, etc.
Post # 8
It was very painless…nothing to worry about! He just basically wanted to get to know us a little bit better (asked questions about where we grew up, how we met, what we’re doing now, etc….nothing too personal!). Then he outlined everything we have to do for marriage prep. Last, we took a test that we’ll be discussing with a "sponsor couple" from the church. This just basically asked us about marriage expectations, upbringing, etc.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone! You are definitely putting me at ease!!!