premarital counseling, legal issues and other engagement drama

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That seems like a lot of drama for a relatively short time together.  I would definitely start counseling on your own and I would NOT put your house on the market any time soon.  I’m sorry for your troubles – this must be awful to live through.

Post # 3
5793 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Go to counseling if you think you need it. Don’t make any other decisions until after your fi’s court date. Pay for the best lawyer you can afford (really he should pay since the DWI is 100% his mistake and bad judgment). The quality of the lawyer often has a direct impact on the harshness of the sentence. Your Fi might be able to keep a heavily restricted license (perhaps only able to drive to/from work) and that’s going to have some bearing on what the logistics of your relationship are like. Stay out of the whole baby mama drama; he should maintain visitation but it’s up to him and the child’s mother to sort that out.

Post # 6
3846 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

pinkbee092:   My ex-BF was in very much the same boat, but without a child.  He had a DUI and lost his license for a year.   He and I also had what we both felt was that once in a lifetime, very deep love, and connection.  Even people who didn’t know us would come up and say we lit up the room.   Parting ways with him was very painful, for both of us, but it was the right thing to do, for me.

You need to step back, and make your own decisions about your future.  It is a good sign that he has made positive changes and I hope he stays on that path through stressful times.

And, please don’t worry about what other people think.  You can never control that.  Live your life, make your best decision, and there are always men who will love you.


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