Post # 1
Do any of you have any premarital books to recommend? I am not super into religion, so no religious stuff please. I just want to read something regarding what to expect after marriage and the engagement process, issues that may arrise, etc…
On that note-has anyone (or is anyone currently) taken premarrital classes with their fiance? If so, is this something you would recommend? We arent marrying in a church, so we wont be doing the traditional catholic premarital stuff.
Any info will be greatly appreciated!
Thanks bees! 🙂
Post # 3
I highly, highly recommend The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.
Gottman is the foremost researcher in North America on marriages and what makes them successful (or not). His book is evidence-based and full of practical information on how to make your marriage work/know warning signs in order to address issues before they become too large. Gottman explains why a lot of the tools taught in traditional marriage counselling don’t always works and he provides alternatives.
Our marriage prep course was actually based around this book (I had already read it — such a brownnoser!). The book includes some really interesting quizzes/exercises that we did as part of our marriage prep and they were really interesting and enlightening – even The Guy liked them!
Really can’t recommend this book enough!
Post # 4
Thank you so much! I love researching everything (nerd alert!), so I have been kind of dying to find a good book on marriage! hahaha. I plan on hitting up the book store today. Hopefully they have it!
Post # 5
I’m reading a book right now called All You Need is Love and Other Lies about Marriage. It’s definitely aimed more at people who are currently having conflicts, but the information in it is amazing, I’d HIGHLY recommend it.
I’d also recommend The Five Languages of Love.
Currently my FI and I are going to pre-marital counseling with a Marriage Family Therapist and I’d also recommend that too.
Post # 6
@ cabanagrl – not sure if this is super helpful but I thought I’d share:
There’s a new book store that just opened up on W45th St.(next to Jack’s World). It’s called Book Off – I popped my head in quickly yesterday & really want to go back.
It’s a used book store BUT the books are all in great condition and they’re super cheap. They even have a $2 section. I saw large sections on marriage, family & parenting. I didn’t have time to browse (it’s a little unorganized) but there were some relationship books I really want to check out when I have time. Looks like they have some really great cookbooks too.
Edit: Looks like it’s a chain. http://www.bookoffusa.com/?cmd=store#store2
Post # 7
I second the Five Love Languages book. It is a little goody-goody, but overall a decent read.
Post # 8
My FI and I are currently working through “1001 Questions to Ask Before you Get Married”, we are kinda semi-diy our premartial counselling as I haven’t found anything in our area that I like yet (non religious). It is really fun and interactive and I like the “work at your own pace aspect”.
Post # 9