- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
My fiance and I had our pre-marriage counseling this weekend. Luckily our reverend is very laid back. It basically consisted of going over the entire ceremony and what we need to be thinking of and have detailed plans of when we get to the rehearsal. Actually, he was so thourough that I had a wedding nightmare that night because I haven’t started planning any of this yet. The bridesmaids walked down the aisle to The Little Drummer Boy because I forgot to pick out any music. LOL
Anyway, when we finally got to the counseling portion, he had us basically take a test. It was 167 questions long and we had to complete it in separate rooms. It asked the basics. How was your life growing up, how do you feel about kids, finances, houshold chores, careers, everything. It actually brought a few things to my attention that Fiance and I need to talk through. After talking to him after we completed the test it seems like we answered very similarly on everything except kids and who will handle the finances.
Since I got finished first, I was looking through the packet that the test came in and it seems like when we get our results back in about 4 weeks that they will categroize us into one of four types of couples.
Vitalized – everything is on par, you are on the same page at every level and have a low likelyhood of divorce.
Harmonized – you are on the same page on the majority of topics, but kids and finances may be an issue. Low likelyhood of divorce. (I’m assuming this is what my Fiance and I will fall under)
Traditional – You seen to differ on a lot of areas, but you’re not polar opposites. You will probably remain unhappily married. (!!!! thats the def of traditional?!?)
Conflicted – Basically differ completely and will probably get divorced within 5 years.
WOW. After reading those I am NERVOUS!
Some of the questions on the test bothered me because they could be interpreted a number of ways, andthat would change my answer. Agh, thats the problem with multiple choice.
Do you think a simple scantron test can tell that much about the dynamics of a relationship?