(Closed) premarriage counseling

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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1053 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

we are almost done with ours and i LOVE it! we’ve both gotten so much out of it – i’m so thankful our church requires it. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We haven’t started, but this was something we really prioritized in choosing an officiant. We’re currently involved in a “Newly and Nearly” small group (for newly and nearly married couples), though, and we’re going through a book on how problems/trials can strengthen a marriage. It’s great! 

The book, if you wanna know, is called “I love you More” by Les and Leslie Parrot and comes with workbooks for men and women.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Our church requires it so we’ve had to do 4 1hr long sessions. We’re doing our last one this Sunday and I’m so glad we had to do them. We’ve both learned so much that we can apply to our marriage.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We only had two sessions because the minister required it but they were so helpful and I wish we could have done more! We really learned a lot about each other and picked up some helpful hints for marriage.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We went and we both felt it was useless for us. We just didn’t get anything out of it, didn’t really enjoy it, and felt our session was just….nothing new! We’d had ALL these talks. Our main values consisted of communication, honesty, balance (in all areas of our life), sexual compatibility, and…oh, i can’t remember. We scored highest on those areas and those were our “values” that we shared the most. We also scored high on finances in that we both think the same way regarding our money. Our pastor didn’t like it (he’s an all-in kinda guy with allowances for every little category and we are very ‘yours, mine, ours, savings, bills, retirement’ cateogry people with percentages but that was the only thing we “discussed’ that was new for us. B/c it’s not like we’ve ever had to explain to other people HOW we do our money. Balance was something we’ve discussed in depth outside our session tho–we need a lot of ‘other’ things in our life to stimulate us and keep us going, such as our jobs, our friends, our families, etc. Things you dont’ think about. So we discussed that delicate balance of “how much is too much” and how to make sure we don’t beocme SO completely enveloped in each other (much like my parents did years and years ago) that you lose a lot of outside things.

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