Premature Anxiety Over Telling Friends

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@windyPhoebee:  I’m sure you are worrying for nothing, but its clear you care about your friends. My advice is this: just don’t mix celebrating your engagement with commiserating over their breakups. When you tell them, just focus on your good news, don’t bring up their bad luck, let them focus on you and being excited for you. When you are hanging out with them commiserating about how guys can suck, don’t bring up your engagement, just focus on them. One night can contain both conversations, don’t get me wrong! But I think sometimes people feel like when they have good news they need to let their friends know they haven’t forgotten that they’re dealing with sucky things and they still care about that. But that just comes across as condescending or gloating, it brings up an unnecessary comparison. Your friends see people getting engaged/married all the time, and your good news is not going to send them down some black hole of sadness. They can seperate your relationship from their own. They’ll be happy for you, and they’ll be fine. And as long as you don’t make every conversation/meetup about your engagement, they will be excited to talk about it.


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