- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
I’m currently a waiting bee but certain hints indicate I may not be waiting much longer. While my main focus of getting engaged is the excitement over the fact I will get to formally say ‘yes’ to spending the rest of my life with my absolute favorite person in the world, I’m having a great deal of anxiety over how to tell certain friends about the engagement.
Recently, it seems many of my friends are going through a very difficult time in their personal lives. Two of my closest friends have recently been dumped (within the last month, and both very tragic/cheaty stories) while another called off her engagement two years ago after she discovered her FI was cheating and she hasn’t quite rebounded.
I feel as though I’ve been walking on eggshells lately, afraid to talk about anything “too happy” in my relationship and I’m starting to have anxiety over how I’ll tell these friends (who are consumed with so much sadness) about my (future) good news. They all love my boyfriend and I know they’ll overall be happy for us, but I also want to be sensitive to their pain. I’m sure I’m reading too much into things, but I don’t want to seem like I’m rubbing my happiness in their faces. We’re adults, so I know they will respond appropriately and respectfully, but I still find it hard to be so happy when I see they are so sad.
I suppose I’m just not sure how to breach the topic with these friends. Has anyone else been in this situation before or have any recommendations about the best way to tell them (text, email, in person, via phone, etc)? I know it’s not my place to worry about their feelings, but I’m just trying to be considerate.
Thanks in advance for any advice!