- 6 years ago
My FI and I decided in the very begining of our wedding planning that we would do a prenup. I wasn’t sure about the details but I knew that we both should know that our assets were protected. He went to see an attorney and came back with the first draft and I’m feeling a little uneasy about it.
Here is a little information on our situtation.
He sold his company a few months back for 5.5 million. He receives 1 million per year which means he will get 1 million before we are married and 4.5 during our marriage. This is the money we are planning on using to buy a house put away for the kids college and for retirement. The prenup states that if we are to seperate before 5 years I would not be entitiled to any of the money or assets that were purchased with this money. That’s it.
I’m fine with this except for I want an infidelity clause, stating that if there is infidelity that can be proven the prenup would be void. OK I know allot of you say if I need an infidelity clause why am I getting married. I completely trust my FI and he has never done anything to have me worry but realistically most marriages end due to infidelity. So for me it just seems the smart thing to do.
I also feel that there should be some financial assistance if we were to seperate, not half but something to help until I can get back on my feet. The reason behind this is that we chose for me to be a stay at home mom. He has 3 children and I have 1 and it was really important for us to have someone home with the kids. I chose to put my career on hold and focus on running the home. If for some reason me and my daughter would be in a horrible financial situation since I am comletely dependant on him financially.
Am I being unreasonable?