Preparing to be a SAHM – any advice?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

make sure you are able to find things to do. Mom’s groups, classes, activities… something. otherwise you will lose your ever loving mind being at home all the time. If you live in a big city you should be able to find all kinds of stuff to do. Also it helps if you have a hobby to have an outlet to point your attention to otherwise it’s easy to get lose in your baby and home and forget who YOU are. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I wish we could have saved more money! But we had to undergo IVF, so spent thousands on that just to conceive, so a lot of our savings when towards that. Great advice above about finding Mom’s groups and classes. Those are great. I belong to a local Mom’s group and go to StoryTime, a music class and also did MyGym for awhile. I try to keep busy and go out every day at least once. I love being a SAHM and it is super rewarding and I’m glad we are doing it, however, I do get bored/lonely/stir-crazy at times and really miss socializing with other adults like in my job before my son was born. Just try to keep active and do fun things and it should go great. 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@blushpinkbride:  If you can, try to start living on one salary and just save yours!  Also think about how health insurance, etc. may change and what costs that might bring.  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@blushpinkbride:  Sounds great. I wish sometimes I lived in a big city so there would be more to do. Jealous! 😉

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

Commenting to follow (: We’re planning on me being a SAHM until our kids are in school so I’m interested in this as well.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@blushpinkbride:   I am a stay at home wife (until august, Im finishing grad school and jobs work weirdly for this program, so after being let go from my last job im now in limbo) 

I made a schedule for myself just so I feel I have something to do and accomplish every day. Each day has four activities 1. chores 2. meal prep 3. work on grad school stuff 4. work out and I block off time for each with each day having specific chores and goals. It helps keep me off the couch and away from the tv which gets depressing afer a while..

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Live off your husband’s salary. Bank yours in a savings account. Doing just that will likely force you to save or cutback in other areas of your life.

Have you factored how your decision will affect your retirement? The longer you retirement funds have the ability to compound interest the better. Re-entering the workforce at a later date may cost you in long term earning potential.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m not a mom but my BFF is a SAHM. Her life saddens me because she is so lonely. She refuses to go to any kind of Mommy and Me group, take her daughter to play with other kids or they don’t take her out to fun places.

She’s just home, all day and right now not able to go anywhere because her husband won’t fix the car so she can drive.

She is constantly calling me to come over since I’m the only friend she has.

I keep telling her she needs to get out and make new friends for herself and for the good of her baby but she refuses.

:/

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m a SAHM and I really love it! We’re in a big city, which really helps–I could have something to do every day of the week if I wanted (which I don’t, because it’s sometimes a little exhausting being out and about so much). I’d just say that you need to be pretty intentional about getting out and socialising if you’re going to be at home because you need some adult interaction too! And maybe ask for gift cards to coffee shops, restaurants, etc for birthdays and Christmas to help fund all the mums’ lunch and coffee outings–those add up. 😉

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@CurlyCue:  This is exactly what we did, and not only has it been good for getting used to just one salary, but we also have a tidy little nest egg sitting in the bank now. Very good advice.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@CurlyCue:  I’m not planning to be a SAHM, but I think this is good advice, and I would say live off of less than your husband’s salary. You’re going to have to pay for health insurance for you and your baby, which could be $500/month. You also should still contribute to your retirement account or contribute more to his. I would save every penny you earn from now until you quit. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@blushpinkbride:  We lived on just my husbands salary while we were TTC and pregnant. That way we got used to one income and had a healthy savings account when the baby arrived!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Ballet513:   This is what we are doing too so it’s not a huge shock come July when I stop working. I’m planning ahead and putting money aside so we have a buffer. I’m also going to join the Christmas Club at our local supermarket and start putting some money aside so we have a little extra when it’s holiday time.  

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