Preplanned "Elopement" – How do I do it??

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

GypsieFlower:  You can certainly have a small civil ceremony of you would like to include your parents. I think the ceremony on the cruise will be different and still very meaningful for the two of you.

Why don’t you mail announcements of your marriage and invitations to the reception when you leave for your cruise?  That would avoid having to deal with the objectors and others who would try to talk you out of eloping.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

When you sign the papers, you’re legally married, and whether or not a cruise ship will “marry” you again depends on a lot of things, including the laws where you’ll be “married” on the ship (at the point of embarkation? A port of call?) and the cruise line rules.  In most places, it is not legal to perform a marriage ceremony on someone who is already married. They might require it to be called a “vow renewal.” Your best bet is to contact the cruise line and discuss your options with them.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

You could definitely wear your wedding dress to the reception when you get back. There’s nothing wrong with it; it’s done all the time. 

Post # 6
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Newbee

Hi Gypsie, we are eloping in a couple of weeks – especally after reading some posts on various sites about how family and friends reacted, I was SO nervous about doing it.  BUT, we decided to push forward and locked in everything for our marriage in Italy.  

Our reasons for eloping sound similar to you – we want it to be about us with no stress – we hired a wedding planner in italy and it’s been so carefree!

As a bit of a compromise, we decided to tell both sets of parents beforehand and that’s it.  I was hyperventilating going to see my parents last week but then we told them and they were OVER THE MOON!  Now I can’t wait to tell his parents (his mum actually gave me the idea but I think she was joking at the time lol) – I know his mum will be upset that she can’t be there but think she would rather have me officially in the family.  

I think if your friends and family love you and your soon-to-be-husband then they will get over it – it’s not about trying to exclude them, it’s about keeping the moment intimate.  Good luck! x

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