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I opened mine. If they sent it, I think they want you to enjoy it - I don't think you have to wait until the wedding. Plus, it was nice to get those thank-you cards out of the way early. Maybe you're supposed to wait...but I say go for it!
Lol @ Melissa...that was going to be my EXACT advice!
You can open it, but its bad luck to use wedding gifts before the wedding.
We got our first wedding present in the mail a couple of weeks ago (we're getting married in July and I was aquealing with delight)!!
@shannon - it was a miracle if i could wait even 5 minutes after I got home from work if i found a package, let alone wait until my FI got home, so waiting til the shower or wedding was completely out of the question. OPEN THOSE PRESENTS haha.
Open Open Open :) Then get started on those thank you notes. You will be happy that you did.
I don't know that it is bad luck to open the gift, but I have read that if one were to cancel the wedding, all gifts (shower and otherwise) would need to be returned. So FI and I are opening gifts, squealing with delight (okay, that's just me not FI), keeping a record of gifts, and writing thank you notes. But then the gift gets stacked on our dining room table to be used after the wedding.
@Melissa - we are of one mind, girl. I was telling FI to open it while I was on the phone, but he wouldn't. Now I have to wait until 9:30 when I get home!!
Sometimes he's such a dummy. I told him to open it and this is the conversation than ensued:
FI: Wait... aren't you supposed to bring it to the shower and open it there?
Me: I'm not supposed to know when the shower is. So when I show up to meet your mom at the BoA Awards Lunch (clever ruse, eh?) with all of my gifts, what should I tell her? "Oh, I thought it was a Secret Santa". Or "I thought you might be getting presents and I brought my own so I wouldn't feel left out". Haha
You cannot send wrapped things to my house and expect me to leave them alone. It's inhuman.
I would open it now and send a thank you. That way you don't have to keep track of it to thank them later.
I think you only have to open the things from the shower at the shower. Honestly, I couldn't watch someone open presents for too long anyway.
@MissAsB I agree. I feel like I should apologize to everyone in advance because I. Hate. Showers. and I feel bad subjecting others to it, but my mom is all about it and she's asked for so little, the least I can do is have a nice lunch and let people give me stuff.
I'm so magnanimous.
All of our gifts are being delivered to my office. We received one yesterday and I texted FI to tell him we got something and I would bring it home for us to open together. He couldn't stand not knowing what it was, so he called me and I opened it with him on the phone! Now I can't tell him during the day if we have one, I have to keep it to myself and haul them home so we can open them together which is not near as much fun!
Presents are my favorite part of wedding planning! OPEN YOURS NOW!!
I'm sooo relieved to see I'm not the only one who urges you to OPEN IT!!! and then tell us what it is! :)
I think if I sent a gift and never heard back from the bride and groom I'd be a little disappointed. I'd want them to be super excited to open it. Open it, guilt free!
And I hear you on the showers!
Ack! So I went home and opened the gift (Gorgeous Riedel wine glasses) which turned out to be from a woman I used to babysit for. But they are clearly a shower gift - the card said "Showers of Happiness!". So now I'm triple confused. Did she mean to send them to me because she's not coming to the shower? Did she mean to have them sent to her and now I've ruined everything? How can I possibly find this out? Argh. This is retarded.
Regardless, I got presents! Yippee!
The other reason you should open now is if it's damaged, you can make a claim with the shipping company!
I would open and definitely write the thank you note now too. It's a nice confirmation that you received it!
Yeah, we received our first wedding gift last week....5 weeks before the wedding and of course we OPENED it...lol...it was such a highlight to a hectic welcome, so we were elated! Now as the day approaches and more begin to arrive, I think we will open them dependent upon time
Definitely open them! That's what I did when I got early presents anyway :) I went ahead and sent a thank you card for them as well prior to the shower.
Okay, so we SHOULD send thank yous right now? Because we've been receiving gifts for a little while now, opening them, writing thank yous, and then we were planning to send the thank yous after the wedding. Someone told me that we shouldn't send them until then. No? I'm so confused!
Open it to make sure nothing is broken. I tried to send thank you notes for gifts I received before the wedding but I failed bad. Most of my Thank you's went out about 3 1/2 months after the wedding. The holidays and moving slowed me down.
We got our first gift a few weeks ago (shower isn't until May, and wedding isn't until the end of July). We opened it, but don't plan on using it until after the wedding. It was 2 sets of our silverware, from my mom of course. She learned at the last wedding that she attended that if you wait too long to buy a registry gift, there might not be much left on the registry.
Also, once you open the gift (open it!!) you should send a thank you note right away.
@mrsmdphd: I really think you should send the thank yous right away. Not only does it prevent them from getting lost, but also then people know that you got the gift and don't have to worry that it was lost by UPS.
@MissAsB - Thank you! Will do! They're just sitting there, all written and addressed, I just wasn't sure if I was REALLY supposed to have opened them in the first place, so I didn't know if I should send the notes. I'm glad to know what to do now!
It sounds like maybe the gift was sent to you by mistake. The registries do no show the address where the gift is being shipped to, so maybe they thought it was going to your parents house. Does your mom know that you know about the shower? Can you call and ask her what to do?
I know you are supposed to send thank you cards, but it might make this person feel bad if it ruined the surprise.
@caszos - that's EXACTLY what I thought! I'm going to call my mom to see if this woman RSVP'd to the shower. If she did, I'm going to change the address to my mom's so everything will get sent there from now on and I'll rewrap the gift and have her bring it so she'll be none the wiser.
My mom knows I know there will be a shower - I did make the guest list for her - but she doesn't know that I already know when and where it will be. Tee hee!
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A present just showed up at my house. (Already??) The surprise-shower-that-I-don't-know-about is not until the end of April and the wedding isn't until June.
So what am I supposed to do with the present? Can I open it now? Do I have to wait?
I should tell you, I'm going to open it anyway, but it would be nice to know what I'm *supposed* to do.