Presents for FMIL too?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I saw just keep it as a mom’s thing. I want to do something very special for my mom aside from everyone else cause she is my mom and my best friend. I say leave it as a special moms gift 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jbbs1222:  We bought gifts for both sets of parents and presented them at the rehearsal dinner along with the gifts to the wedding party.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

I’m giving my FMIL a gift because we’re pretty close…It’s really up to you.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

I’m getting my FMIL a gift…But then again, we’re really close. It’s really up to you, but it would be really sweet of you to do, especially if it’s something you would love for her to wear to the wedding.  As for the dads…You could let your fiance due that.  It would be nice, for him to do the dads’ gifts and you the mothers’.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@jbbs1222:  I gave both my own parents gifts and my fiance decided to give a joint gift to his. They were both kind of personal gifts so they didn’t make sense to come from both of us. I could have got my future in-laws gifts from me as well – but i figure we’ll prob give them a photo album or a framed picture once the professional wedding pics get in. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@jbbs1222:  For us its tradition to give flowers. We decided to give jewellery as it felt more personal. We presented it on the wedding day. I think it’s a nice touch.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We are definitely doing gifts for everyone (parents, grandparents, and a few sweet friends who are helping us a lot). But we’re very gift-y people–we bring gifts almost every time we visit either set of parents just for a casual visit, so it would be VERY peculiar if we didn’t give them gifts for the wedding.

Anyway, I think it’s sweet to give a small gift, especially if they helped you out in any way!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I didn’t give either set of parents gifts. We didn’t have a wedding party, our parents just showed up, sat down and ate, etc. I knew that if gifts were purchased, I was a.) going to have to pick all of them out b). Risk that they wouldn’t like them (I don’t know my in-laws’ styles – and frankly when I’ve tried, I’ve failed miserably. They make an effort to act appreciative, but I can tell when they DON’T like something I purchased) and c.) Likely have to pay for them, as our finances were not combined before marriage and I never seemed to get around to it when he was around to pitch in for payment as well.

 

If people are going to be in your wedding party…fine…give a gift (I bought our ringbearer a costume for one of his Build-a-Bears). But if they aren’t – I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary. And even then, a nice card of gratitude can be gift enough.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are giving our parents joint gifts – a ride on a steam railway and a box of Swiss chocolates

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It is customary to gift parents regardless of their position in the party.  I think that it has to do with dowery business. Anyways, I think if you do something for one mom you need to one for the other.  

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