Pressure to invite estranged cousin

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Member
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think if you want to speak to anyone about it or they ask you, you can say “Yes, I’m really looking forward to getting to know so-and-so better! As for our wedding, we’re keeping it intimate and only involving people with whom we’re very close, but I can’t wait to spend more time with [cousin] after all the wedding and new baby craziness dies down. In fact, I reached out to her a few months ago about spending time together, so hopefully I’ll hear back from her at some point and we can get to know eachother!”

Post # 3
Member
1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

IMHO, weddings are NOT the time to attempt reconciliations. The estranged person may have no one to sit with, etc.   I agree with Mrs. Rooster, reach out later. 

Post # 4
Member
171 posts
Blushing bee

I’m with PPs and I say explain it to your family that you want to keep the wedding intimate and would like to reach out to her after the wedding.  Then again, I’m not the kind of person who likes to invite people to events due to obligation or family pressure.  Good luck!  🙂

Post # 5
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1180 posts
Bumble bee

Tell them what you told us. You’ve reached out to her multiple times already and she’s ignored you. You don’t feel compelled to have someone at your wedding that won’t even talk to you. She’s not invited to your wedding. If they want to include her in more stuff, they are welcome to host their own events to invite her to, not yours. Then let them know that’s the last time the topic will be discussed and don’t allow them to bring it up anymore.

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Post # 6
Member
1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

rhcp47:  Well, I’m sure if she had immediately replied and you guys had hit it off and become friends then the situation would be different. But she didn’t. She’s still a stranger. I didn’t invite any strangers to my wedding either. Including some aunts, uncles, cousins. 

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