Post # 1
So my mother seems to think that she has every right to name my child. My husband and I have chosen the name Annabelle. We are so in love with this name and at this point cant imagine her being anything else than a little Annabelle.
My mother wants to name her Anna. She says that Annabelle is too frou frou and beleive thats it too tacky of a name. She claims that other people think its stupid and that I shouldnt do it. I keep telling her that its going to happen no matter what. Her response? “keep your options open…dont settle on a name just yet’. She refuses to accept the fact that her name is going to be Annabelle.
My mother is the type that if I dont agree with her…Im stupid. ( example… I didnt choose the salade she wanted when we got married…she still talks about this)
This is our daughter and I shouldnt have to justify to ANYONE what name we want to give her.I am sooo frustrated.
Post # 3
Since Anna is a short form of Annabelle I wouldnt really worry too much about it. You can name her Annabelle and even if your mom calls her anna, its still technically a part of her name.
Post # 4
To be honest this is why many couples don’t annouce their child’s name until he/she is born and its official. Maybe you can back track and still do this? Just tell your mom the name will be annouced after her birth?
Post # 5
At the same time…Anna isnt her name…She will only call her Anna, nothing else. She doesnt want Annabelle. She is insisting that its a horrible name.
Post # 6
This honestly doesn’t seem like such a big deal since the names are so alike. Just name her what YOU want and your mom can always call her ‘Anna’ for short.
Post # 7
thats annoying-and I 100% get why its so frustrating to you. Bottom line – Annabelle is YOUR BABY. It doesnt matter if your mom thinks its frou-frou or whatever…thats not her decision to make. Stick with your guns, and be firm if you dont want her calling her Anna.
Post # 8
I agree 100% that it’s super annoying and way too pushy pushy, but at the same time, if you’re naming her Annabelle, don’t you think that there’s going to be so many more people throughout her life other than her grandmother that are going to just default to calling her Anna? Just something to think about. It’s still your and hubby’s decision solely!
Post # 9
Ok so it’s totally annoying and I get it. Just stop talking about it with her. It’s annoying you and just feeding her. You know that she has no say in what your daughter is named so let it roll off your back.
Post # 10
I actually dont mind if people shorten it to Anna.We assumed people would. One of the reasons that we chose Annabelle was because when shortened it sounded good.
But to call her Anna all the time because she refuses to call her Annabelle…different story in my opinion.
We did announce it to our parents, thinking that they would like to share in the moment with us. Choosing a name is a big deal in my opinion….but this is ridiculous.
I even try not to bring it up anymore. Let it be. She brings it up..and she FIGHTS with me.
Post # 11
I agree with the PP’s, the names are so similiar that it doesn’t really seem like such a big deal. Name her what you want to name her and if your mother wants to call her “Anna” then let her. I’m sure she won’t be the only one to shorten it.
My grandmother actually hated the name that my parents chose for me, too. I was supposed to be Hennah (no, not Hannah, HENNAH) but thankfully my grandmother intervened. I don’t think I would have made a good Hennah.
Post # 12
Cringe, i totally am already feeling the pressure, we plan to wait until the baby is born to tell people his name…for this reason. Good luck, once she is born she will be so cute they will forget about all that naming stuff.
Edit: for what its worth, that name is so precious!
Post # 13
Wow- this is not cool of your mother! My mum is pretty opinionated with names (she hates the ordinary- even though her name is, guess that’s why?) but she would never ever dictate to me about MY child’s name. I really feel for you cos I bet you want your mother to love the name that you love. I agree about the Anna/Annabelle thing but your right, it’s still kinda a slap in the face that she refuses to acknowledge what you have named YOUR child! Grrr!
I have to say I love love love the name Annabelle. I love Belle for short, rather than Anna. Stick to your guns. I’d have a chat with your mother, tell her how you feel and that you need her to respect your choices for your child. If she’s like this now think what she’ll be like with all other aspects of your child’s life- yikes! Nip it in the bud! Good luck.
Post # 14
If it helps, my mother wanted my daughter named “NOEL”. No, not a bad name… but not good for a child born in June. Or the fact it’s a play on HER NAME. So, I let her think I was gonna name my daughter “Noel” but my FI and I didn’t name her that. And, to be honest, my daughter is definitely NOT a “Noel”…. she’s no angel 😉
Also, some grandparents give the children a complete DIFFERENT name (nickname) than what the parents give them and that’s the name they’re called by the grandparents until the day said grandparents die. Sometimes, it’s the name that sticks. Permanently. Either in the family or inside AND outside the family. (ex: my brother. His nickname is one my grandmother gave him as an infant and it’s what the entire family calls him. Even now. Me, my grandparents, our parents, certain relatives of my grandfather….)
So, I’d be thankful your mom didn’t decide a complete different name/nickname and just let her call your girl “Anna”.
Trust me, all given names and their full names are used when the kid is getting into trouble. 😉 Just remember back to YOUR childhood when you got into major trouble and were called every.name. you were given. 😉
Post # 15
I think it is a big deal; the mother is not saying ‘oh let’s just call her Anna for short’, she is basically saying ‘Annabelle is a stupid name’ and that is very hurtful. I would stop talking to her about it.
Post # 16
@Aubergold: exactly. I think a lot of people missed the point of OPs post. It wasnt about her mom shortening the name, it was the fact that her mom is meddling…and badly.
@ForeverYoung: You know I PMmed you about this 🙂 Ignore her and tell her that the name decision is up to you and DH and be firm. Its NOT her decision, regardless of how much she tries to bully you