Post # 1
I know this is going to sound like I’m being an ungrateful bi-atch, and that’s not what I mean, but I was thinking today about the average to spend on a wedding gift. I know when FI and I go to a wedding, we usually spend $100-150 on a gift from both of us (and I feel like it’s too little sometimes).
We’ve been receiving gifts off our registry, and it’s so funny to see the huge differences in what people spend. Most friends our age (mid-20s) I don’t expect anything fancy from, and the average from them has probably been $15-20, and we’ve gotten a few really really generous gifts so far…but the ones that are baffling me are a couple of families (like grown ups! Which I don’t consider people our age, haha) that are bringing 4-5 people from their family and sent a gift that cost like $10-15 — from the whole family. And these are well-off people!
I’m sorry, that sounds so ungrateful, and I’m not! We get sooo excited when anything arrives, and it still amazes me that people are buying us anything! It’s just interesting to me what people find appropriate. What would you say is the average?
Post # 3
You take what you get, a gift is not required nor is the cost of the gift mandatory. Times are tough and people give what they feel they can afford. It could be worse and they could give you nothing….
I am very comfortable financially. For close friends and family I spend $100 at the shower, and give $250 cash at the wedding from my husband and I. For other friends I would give $50-75 for the shower and $150-200 cash at the wedding.
It all depends on my finances, how close I am to the bride and groom, and how elegant/expensive the event is.
Post # 4
I usually spend $100-$150 on a wedding gift (i just spent $150 on a wedding gift b/c my husband and I are BOTH in that wedding), $70 on a shower gift and $50 on a bachelorette gift. Lingerie ain’t cheap!
To answer your question, yes, we had the same issue. We got a lot of checks for $20 to $40. Some were in college, sure, but some where family that we *had* to invite. Shoot, dinner alone was like double that. Most of our older guests sent us $50 or $100 though. It all adds up! But at the end of the day, while I understand peoples’ financial situations, it makes me wonder if we are *too* generous in the big scheme of things and if it wouldn’t hurt us to scale back a smidge. It definitely looks like I could get away with $50 and $50 and still be *generous* for gifts. I just thought everyone tends to spend the normal $80 up on wedding gifts. I don’t really think this is quite the case, though. Depending on regions…