(Closed) Priest changed his mind, now we HAVE to have our ceremony on a Saturday…

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That’s ridiculous. Sorry you’re having to deal with that. I hate it when people flake out like that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i’d find another priest. The bait and switch on days is VERY rude!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh no! Are you close with the priests? Could you still have it on Sunday with another one, or is the use of the church off limits?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would find another priest also. Tell him you cannot switch the venue due to the cost. Since he previously told you that it was ok on Sunday, tell him that is all that there is in your budget.  Or find a new one.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

i would try a different church or priest.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The White Robed Monks of St. Benedict have a center in Houston.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Everything will work out.  In all liklihood the priest talked with the other priests and realized he really shouldn’t have said yes to a Sunday wedding.  He may have found out about something in Canon Law.  Who knows what happened?  Just remember, its not the end of the world.   Heck, I was told by the music director in June of last year that he’d get together a bunch of singers for me no problem.  My wedding was in April.  He informed me in Feburary that no one was available.  I suddenly had to frantically search for an alternative.  We ended up with just an organist.  That was one of over 10 problems we came across with our wedding.  I had friends tell me that they thought we were under spiritual attack.

Just remember to control what you can control and keep the things that fall out of your control in God’s hands.  The hard part is learning to let go.  Its great preparation for married life.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That’s so bogus.  Did you already have your date set with the church?  Once they put your name in that book and take your “required donation,” they can’t move your day.  To do so would be unprofessional and disrespectful to you.  If you haven’t made your “donation” and gotten your name in that book, do it ASAP.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Just so you know, if you have a Catholic wedding on a Sunday you usually have to use the readings from that day.  If it’s important to you to be able to choose your own readings, it might be for the best that the priest changed his mind.  

I’ve also heard of a lot of parishes that only do Sunday weddings if they are does as part of the regular mass.  Just something to consider.  Best of luck working it all out!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

well our church only has weddings on Saturdays too…..

that’s also why they tell you not to book your reception site until after you book the church

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know this is unorthodoxed but…why not have your ceremony & reception on different days?  Make a weekend out of it!  We did…had our ceremony on Friday with a “welcome party” of just drinks & cupcakes (found a restaurant that has a tiny minimum if we did it during the hours between lunch & dinner, 3pm-6pm) & had our reception on Sunday.  I grant you, having the “welcome party” after the ceremony added costs, but it was still MUCH less than having the reception even on a Friday night.  And, actually, most of our guests appreciated the multiple events (they got to know each other better & were really relaxed at the reception); some even made it their family vacay & extended their trip for a few days on either end, which allowed us to have mini get togethers with different groups of guests (family, college friends, childhood friends, work friends, etc.).  Just an option that’s “outside of the box”.

Good Luck!

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