Post # 1
I just called the parish where we are getting married to inquire about what is involved in setting a date, doing marriage prep, and going about renting the parish’s reception hall. I realize that with an early June 2014 wedding date, we are doing things earlier than a lot of people, but SO is really concerned that our date is going to book.
He really does not want to push it back any further. When I called the priest and told him our date, he laughed at me. And then asked if I even have a man yet. Then told me to call back in 5 or 6 months.
I mean, I know that we are doing things early, but really it’s less than 2 years away. Is it really that unheard of? Not only that, but this is a gorgeous church on a hill overlooking the river, and is in a small town, and our friends have let us know that things will start booking within a year and a half. The priest said that the hall might be getting booked now, but definitely not the church.
I just feel a little miffed. If we lose our date, SO is going to be mad.
Post # 3
What a jerk! Call back and explain that you would like to book it now so you don’t have to worry.
Post # 4
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Is there a parish secretary, or some other reasonable person there you can talk to? I don’t understand why he’s not letting you book now, unless prices might change.
Post # 5
I booked my gorg. old historic church with around 9 months until the wedding. People come from an hour away to go to this church…
I’ve been told most churches don’t allow you to book that far in advance (mostly bc it’s not really necessary).
I’m sure you’ll be fine
Post # 6
“When I called the priest and told him our date, he laughed at me. And then asked if I even have a man yet.”
WHAT???? That is so offensive! I’d be beyond miffed! I’m sorry to say, but that priest sounds like a complete jerk!
Post # 7
omg that is absurd! I don’t think booking 2 years out on a sought-after venue is ridiculous at all! It’s hard to book things 1 year out these days! I honestly would be suepr turned off by that and not even want to deal with them.
Post # 8
While the joke was definitely in poor taste, I wouldn’t worry about it. I think he’s right in that churches don’t book as fast as halls. I booked my church roughly 9 months out and I pretty much had my choice of dates for the fall. Meanwhile, all the halls were getting booked. It might be a church policy that you can’t book anything more than a 12 or 18 months out.
Post # 10
Apparently being a priest doesn’t stop someome from being an asshole. We started planning after we got engaged over an year and half away. I found that often time vendors wouldn’t take me seriously, or would ask me to come back at a year out.
I stuck with those vendors who were professional and answered all my questions, some of them have valid reasons for book a year or fifteen months out because their rates and packages may change.
Post # 11
The church may not book that for in advance. My Catholic church will only book 12 months iin advance of your wedding. Maybe it would be better to call and ask how far in advance you can book the church.
Post # 12
I’d write off a church who treated me like that.
Post # 13
The joke was in poor taste yes, but I feel like the name calling is a little much. There may be policy or any number of things that don’t allow them to book two full years out. Unless this church is like, St. Peter’s, it is likely that your dates will still be there in a year, especially if no one can book more than a year out.
Post # 14
OMG I booked our Cermony venue 20 months out!!!
I think I would be inclined to ask to speak to ‘his’ superior about his attitude!!
Post # 15
I called and spoke to the secretary, who without a second thought said she can’t book the date, but she “penciled it in” to remember we want it, and even asked which time slot during the day we are interested in.
She then asked for my address so she could mail me the wedding guideline book and the date confirmation form that we both need to sign, as well as the priest, before it’s confirmed. I guess I’ll just send it in and see if the priest will sign it? lol
They never mentioned a policy on how far in advance they book, she just mentioned that she doesnt have the 2014 calendar up yet…
Post # 16
I’d be annoyed, but yeah I think you’re doing things early. In my area, most venues won’t book more than a year out.