- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
I’m in a friend’s wedding. She’s getting married next August, and we just came home from looking at churches with her FI and some members of the bridal party. We’re all recovering from laughing so hard we couldn’t breathe.
I don’t know about church traditions in other countries, but here in Sweden most churches have a bridal crown that you can borrow for free. They’re traditionally used to indicate the, ehm, purity of the bride, and there’s a lot of stigma on wearing one if you aren’t a virgin, and TBH, they tend to be very ugly. Some are decades and decades old, and not exactly in fashion. My aunt and grandma both smile at their wedding photos and say “what in the hell was I thinking wearing that hideous crown?”
Our friend really liked this church, so she and her FI discussed with the priest for awhile, then they started discussing booking and rehearsal etc. with the caretaker. When they wandered around in the church to figure out possible decorations etc, the priest (a woman) came over to me. She went on about how disappointed she was that so few brides chose to not use their bridal crown, that she tried talking my friend into borrowing it but she politely declined, and then she says, 100% serious: “aha, she’s not a virgin, that must be it. Well, I guess nobody is a virgin at their wedding anymore. What’s the wedding night for nowadays, then?”
We excused us, got into the car and laughed our asses off. The poor woman was completely oblivious to the fact that their 50+ years old bridal crown just doesn’t look good. “She’s not a virgin, that must be it!” “What’s the wedding night for?” WTF priest?