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Priest said no rose petals allowed in church, cut out flower girl?

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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    My daughter just turned 1 and I am having her walk down the aisle with my oldest daughter which is 13.  The youngest one is my flower girl and the oldest is the jr.bridesmaid.  I was so excited for my two daughters to walk down the aisle together where my oldest can help my youngest throw petals...I just found out that the church doesnt allow petals inside.  What to do?! Is there still a point of having a flower girl even if she cant throw petals? It stinks that they dont allow it, why is it? I am so looking forward to my baby girl wearing a white dress along with me and if she cant throw petals its fine with me, just wanted to make sure it was normal to have a flower girl but no flower petals involved

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    I'm sure that would be fine! It would still be super cute!!!! Can she throw something else? Like fake flowers?

     
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    vistagirl    march , 2010   Oregon

    we are having ours hang pomanders.

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    i've seen flower girls carry pomanders or rose balls...perfectly normal.

     
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    mouse    September 11, 2009   Austin, TX

    Mine carried small bouquets and it was adorable (IMO!).

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    ive never seen a flower girl throw petals - its a OH&S hazzard and alot of places we've been to even ban throwing rice/confetti and blowing bubbles as its a tripping hazzard

    let your little one have a pretty dress and carry some flowers or something cute - she'll look adorable

     
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    AnamCara    April 10, 2010   Ireland/Connecticut

    I've been to lots of weddings and lots of them have had flower girls and I've never seen a flower girl throw petals - it is still so special to see the little ones, all dressed up, carrying flowers as a mini bouquet/in a basket/in a pomander - I think it will be lovely even without petals involved!  My niece is going to be my flower girl and it never occurred to me to see if petals were an option - I'm just excited to have her there with me.

    Good luck!

     
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    bananagirl    October 10, 2010  

    does this mean no fake flower petals as well? 

    you could have her walk down the aisle carrying flowers. Or if she was really looking forward to the petal part, or you could let her carry a basket with flowers (instead of petals) and she can hand a flower to the mothers of the bride and groom, or even one to the person sitting on the end of each aisle, or something like that.  depending on the rules of the church and how formal the wedding is, maybe she could blow bubbles down the aisle instead?  or ring a little bell as she walks down the aisle?  i know those are things that are usually done after the wedding by everyone in places that forbid rice, but it could be kinda cool to do as part of the processional. 

     
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    winter443    5/15/10   Atlanta

    My church doesn't allow petals either, my flowergirl will be carrying a pomander.  She'll look super cute!

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    We can't have petals in church, but we can outside so they will have petals and bubbles in their baskets.  The pomanders are great ideas too and looks so cute. 

     
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    marissa227    June 4, 2011  

    I think it will be fine! They'll be so adorable that no one will even notice about the petals. Just have them hold pomanders or anything you want really. When I was really young I was a flower girl in my Uncle's wedding. For some reason I refused to throw the petals (I think I was embarrassed because everyone was looking at me) so I just walked down the aisle with my basket!

     
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    NeliBee    April 10, 2010  

    The past couple of weddings that I've been to, I haven't seen a flower girl actually throw the petals down the aisle.

    I've seen them carry a little basket with either a small bouquet inside or they've carried a little pomander.

    You definitely should include your tiny tot in your processional as a flower girl!!!! I think that would be so cute and that she would really enjoy it!

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    Real petals stain and fake ones are really slippery! lol, we can't have them either!

    We're giving the FG a pomander. 

    Honestly, most 1-2 year olds wind up getting carried down the aisle themselves anyways! :-)

     
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    kaybee    December 5, 2009   Oklahoma City

    My 2 year old niece was a bell ringer and she was so cute!  She could also blow bubbles or carry a Here Comes the Bride banner.

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    My flower girl had a little bouquet. No petals allowed for us either. My ring bearer also didn't have a ring pillow or rings....but that was an actual mistake :)

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    Have her carry a pomanader, or fill her basket with a pretty arrangement!

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    i Love the pomander idea!!!!! Thanks so much ladies.... :)

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    My church doesn't allow it either. In fact, I believe a lot of churches don't allow flower petals or aisle runners.

    We are having a little basket made with flowers attached inside, looks like a small purse and everything's secure so it won't fall out. It will be real flowers poking out of the top and green moss like substance on the 'basket' part.

     
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    HereComesTheSun    March 6, 2010   Houston, TX

    We can't do petals either our flowergirls will carry pomanders or tiny bouquets. I think that will make them feel more special since ours are on the older side.

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    I would just have them carry something. Like other posters I don't think I've ever seen a flower girl actually tossing petals before the bride came down the aisle in a church.

     
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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    My flower girl just carried a pomander - it was really cute! 

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    lol I called pomanders kissing balls cause I hate the... p word. Makes me crazy! But she could carry one of those, or a bouquet, or a banner, or... really whatever you want!

     
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    I agree w/those who say it's dangerous.  Plus an unnecessary expense.  I think the two girls walking down the aisle is lovely enough.  A little one may not feel comfortable throwing things anyway and may not do it.  So, why go through the expense.

    They can carry a ball of flowers [a pomador].  That's real cute.  Or a basket of flowers.  Or a tussie mussie.  Those are silver cones filled w/fresh flowers.

    Don't worry.  It'll be lovely.  It's a minor detail.  Many churches have the same rule.  This isn't an unusual rule.

     

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