Post # 1
If you read this thread by any chance: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-we-nix-the-honeymoon#axzz2OCh5YnXv
You know my living situation with FI is basically unbearable at the moment.
Today is a prime example of why we fight over things. I’m trying to eat healthy and lose weight. Not just for my wedding, but for life in general. I’ve been on this boat for awhile.
So given our situation, it’s been difficult to maintain a healthy way of eating because life is not lending me many opportune moments to prepare things for myself.
It looks like I need to just start packing a DINNER on days that I am going to be seeing FI. Which is funny because I don’t even pack a lunch.
Going along with our trying-to-save-money thing, we are trying to eat out less. He said he would see what’s in the freezer for tonights dinner (aka frozen crap food).
When I tell him not to bother but thanks, he’s like Ok i’ll make you a salad – which will consist of bagged lettuce and dressing. I sound ungrateful here, but I don’t want that! His idea of eating healthy is just that. Toss some bagged lettuce in a bowl and hand me a bottle of ranch.
It’s so aggravating! I am not the type of person who can eat that for dinner. I would rather eat nothing for dinner. And when I tell him no thank you, he just gets pissed at me.
But if I were to tell him I would pick up something for myself on the way over, he would also get pissed at me.
So what the hell?
I really just wish I had my own place so I could make dinner in my OWN kitchen!!
I’m so annoyed!!!
Post # 3
what’s stopping you from moving in together before the wedding?
Post # 4
@rumpunch712: My SO gets groceries for me when he goes to the market. Could yours? Give him a list of things you need for those days.
Post # 5
@rumpunch712: you guys sound freakishly like me & my FI~ We are in the same friggin boat! I don’t want frozen pizza bites, macaroni, or toaster strudels EVERY morning (though I love them occasionally). It’s like, I WANT TO COOK!! My house consists of my dad, my sisters 25yr old boyfriend, my sister, my mom & I. My sister’s boyfriend buys TONS of crap food andmy parents never grocery shop, so it’s extrememly hard to cook decent food. & Lord knows when we buy groceries and leave them at my house they are gone the next day!!!
I know money is tight, we’ve had to wait and be miserable! FI moves in April 6, I will after the wedding. And I’m so excited to eat good food! You hang in there! I haven’t quite found a solution, but I’ll let you know if I do.
Good luck :}
Post # 6
@rumpunch712: Can’t you just bring some groceries over and cook for the both of you at his place? Be sneaky. Bring salad ingredients… but buy a baguette (or make garlic toast or something) as well so it’s not just a salad for dinner. If you only want a little bread, only have a little. Compromise. There must be SOME home cooked meals that he likes, right? Maybe he just doesn’t know how to make them himself yet.
When you move in together you’ll have a similar problem… only you’ll be complaining that you have to make 2 separate meals, never eat togther, and your SO is making himself fat.
Post # 7
Have a “prep” day where you make containers of healthy food and just microwave them when you want it.
Example: On Monday, I chopped a bunch of vegetables and set them aside. I got 5 microwavable tupperware containers and added low sodium marinara (tomato basil) to the bottom of each. Then I mixed up the veggies and distributed them between the 5 containeres. I shredded some mozzarella on the top and BOOM. Awesome lunch every day that I just grab and go (extra 15 minutes of sleep for me!)
It’s possible, it just takes a lot of pre-planning.
Today’s grab-n-go is broccoli florets (raw), zucchini (raw), and spinach (raw) with part skim mozzarella that I sliced from a brick.
All this = 80 calories. Super filling when heated up because the sauce and cheese mix together and the veggies cook. SOO GOOD.
Post # 8
@futurepilotswife_: thanks 🙂 it is good to know i’m not the only one experiencing this at the moment though, haha. good luck to you as well 😉
@canarydiamond: truly it’s not that he can’t cook (well… he sort of can’t) but more like he doesn’t have the resources in his house to really whip things up for us either. he’s an only child and has eaten his moms weekly casseroles his entire life. I guess I just need to get over my feeling of discomfort when it comes to whipping up something in his families kitchen. sometimes it’s just not an option though.
when we move in together it will be GREAT because we will have a lot more time to actually do things like prep for meals. we’ve already talked about how much easier it will be to eat healthfully together when we’re finally living together. thankfully, he is really good about eating a variety of things and being open to new things. unlike my ex who insisted on meat and potatoes every single day!
@JackiBean: that actually sounds amazing! thank you for the idea 🙂 i am def. gonna try that out! i occasionally am able to prep some meals for the coming week, but usually it’s just lunches for work. it is a struggle to do that at times. but I need to get better at being consistent about preparing things before hand, sometimes it just gets pushed to the side again and again until it just never happens at all.
I guess I really just need to be more disciplined about doing things on the weekend, as far as lunches go anyway. Dinner i’m still stuck on. I should just buy some lean cuisines and keep them in their basement freezer. Ha. (those get old fast!)
@bebero: it’s explained in the thread I linked, but in a nutshell, we’re saving the money we would be spending on rent for the wedding