Post # 1
Would anyone else be bothered if their husband chose not only to not wear a wedding ring in general, but to not at least do the ring exchange?
I thought they cut that part out of the ceremony for a second, then remembered there was something said recently about Prince William not wanting to wear a wedding ring.
I personally would have felt a little sad. I would at least expect him to put on a ring during the ring exchange! Maybe take it off after or later, but to just not accept one at all?! That was strange to me. Especially with such a formal/traditional wedding!
Post # 3
I think in their case, it’s a bit different. He has to wear a royal ring on his left finger, and he didn’t like the way anything else looked with it. Also…about a billion people saw this wedding, so I don’t think there’s any question on whether he’s married or not :o)
For me and my husband personally? I’d be pretty offended if he didn’t want to wear a ring. I see it as a pretty small sacrifice to make for me. I don’t ask him for a lot, but I do want him to wear a ring.
Post # 4
Would not bother me. They’re still married regardless of the exchange. That’s just a “tradition” and whether or not you choose to participate in that, you’re still hubby & wife.
Post # 5
Apparently it is tradition that guys don’t wear rings. Its quite a new thing that they do pushed by the jewlery industry.
Post # 6
I think it’s different in their case. They don’t wear wedding rings. I would be fine with the DH not wearing his ring if he had a reason not to. If it was for a stupid reason, like he didn’t want to. Yeah, not so much.
Post # 7
I’m just lucky that Mr. Dear is so excited about wearing his.
Post # 8
I agree if there is good reason.. but what could that reason possibly be? She is wearing a ring and participated in the ring exchange, and he is an equal partner in the marriage… why couldn’t he do the exchange too? Obviously it is not against tradition if she did it.
Post # 9
I told my fiance that if he didn’t want to wear a ring, I wouldn’t wear one either.
I like the idea of us both wearing one, but for a couple of reasons, it really, really bothers me if I wore one and he doesn’t.
Post # 10
He’s not doing it because he doesn’t like wearing rings. And honestly, it’s so evident that he’s married that you’d have to be an undiscovered tribe of pygmy down in the Amazon basin to not know. If he cheats or has an affair, the woman he does it with won’t later be like, “AHMAHGAWD, I didn’t know he was married!”
Post # 11
I don’t care for other people, and I definitely don’t think it has to mean that there’s less commitment. But for myself, it’s important to me that we both wear rings.
Post # 12
Men’s wedding rings are a post WWII invention from what I’ve read. Or maybe it was out of their wedding budget?
Post # 13
@Ahone: Of course he is married and everyone knows. I don’t mean it regarding that. I just mean that if she is wearing one that represents her vows to him, why can’t he. Everyone knows she is married, but she still wears a ring.
Post # 14
I would be bothered if my FI didn’t want to wear a ring, it’s symbolic of our union and it would make me sad if he didn’t want to honor it. It wouldn’t bother me from the standpoint of ‘oh no he’s not wearing a ring and other girls will come after him bc they wont know he’s married’ kind of way…because I trust thim, but I just love what the rings represent.
Post # 15
@Entangled: Exactly. I’m not okay with one of us just wearing one and the other not, I’d rather it be both of us wear one or both of us not.
However, Prince William and Kate’s situation is definitely different.
Post # 16
@NatDawn: I think personal preferences trump tradition. Three main scenarios abound:
1) He didn’t want to wear a ring and she was cool with that, so it happened as it did or…
2) He didn’t want to wear a ring and she is upset about it, but didn’t press him because she didn’t want a rehash of 2007 or…
3) He didn’t want to wear a ring, she got upset and fought with him behind closed doors, but he’s the prince and what he wants goes since he is in the position of power….
fill in the blank. Could have been anything. Doesn’t bug me… what they do is fine, but I know I’d want him to wear the ring. BUT, if you are marrying a guy with a lot of money, fame, and power, you just may be willing to throw what you want out the window in favor of what he wants… at least some women…