Post # 1
My FMIL is currently in the philippines and we have no idea what to do haha. So I hope you can help! She gave us a list of Princepal Sponsors (thats exactly what she said) – 5 couples. She also told me to pick sponsors from my family – 2 couples, i chose.
But now Im reading that Princepal sponsors just walk down the aisle, meaning they have no “physical job” in the wedding, and thats for the secondary sponsors?! Does that mean we need to choose 3 more couples?!?!?! I dont want to make MY family all secondary, cause I think that will be rude, and make it seem like my family isnt as important as his (I am not filipino).
Can Princepal sponsors do the Veil/Cord/Candle also?????
Post # 3
My mom is Filipina. I have been to too many Filipino weddings to count.
The secondary sponsers assist with the cord and veil. As far as the role of the primary sponsors, they just walk down the aisle. They really don’t really do anything else, but it is an honor to be a primary sponsor. They become your Ninang and Ninong (godmother and godfather).
I don’t see why you can’t have the primary sponsor do the cord, veil, and coins, but it’s not traditional. But I find that my Filipino family does not like to stray too far from traditions when it comes to weddings. Good Luck!
Post # 4
thanks! I guess I just have to wait until they get back from the philippines to ask if its okay with them. is it okay to not have any secondary sponsors?
Post # 5
@leighannd: LOL…just had this conversation with my mother tonight. I really was not planning on doing the cord and veil or even principle sponsors. My mom’s response: “There’s no point in having a weedding if you don’t have godparents”. LOL!!! And she wants my crazy aunt to be a principle sponsor! I will likely have just one set of principle sponsors to act as witnesses to sign the marriage license.(NOT the crazy aunt) And will probably have the secondary sponsors too….I’m just pickig my battles! I think it depends on how traditional your future in-laws are. They may insist on having secondary sponsors.
Post # 6
I am the last Filipina daughter to get married and we will not be doing sponsors or veils, etc. Neither of my sisters did either. Just your preference as to how traditional you want to be.