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Handwritten - like you suggested, printed is too much like an impersonal email. The photo is a great touch (I'm sure people will love it!) but that doesn't get you out of getting carpal tunnel while writing 100 thank you notes 
Let me introduce you to an important rule for a happy marriage -- based on my non-existant experience with marriage. YOU take care of your share of the chores YOUR way, and thank your lucky stars and your darling husband that he takes care of his share of the chores AT ALL.
I may not have been married, but I kept house for my Dad until he died. The compromises required to live happily day-to-day with a parent aren't all that different. Etiquette is founded on a lovely double standard. It sets the highest standards for you to apply to yourself; and includes among them a high standard of tolerance, understanding and foregiveness that your are expected to apply to everyone else.
In short: don't even dream of trying to "make" your new husband hand-write those thank-you notes. Sure, I would never type or print-out a note. And thank you for holding back the dark night of decadance by handwriting your own notes! But technology keeps on changing and the same social adaptations that made it acceptable for me to use a ballpoint pen for thankyou notes (instead of a fountain pen) will someday make it acceptable for your hubby to print out thank-you notes (or even -- shock! -- email them!!!) instead of hand-writing them. Until then, think of him as an early-adopter, as a leader of social reform -- and hold your tongue.
Think about it this way: People went to the expense of travel and purchasing gifts for you. A handwritten thank you note is appropriate, and likely expected. I'm pretty sure Great Aunt Tilly will not be pleased if she receives a printed note, and won't stay quiet about it either.
I think I'm going to be hand writing mine, but people beg me to type my letters to them. (It feels like a waste of a pretty card to me if I don't write anything on it!) My handwritting is almost completely illegible, so I'm left with the choice of a printed letter that people can read or a handwritten one they cannot.
For me personally, as the potential recipient of a thank you, as long as the letter isn't generic and is hand signed, I don't care if it's hand written, computer printed, typed on a typewritter, or made from cut and pasted letters from magazines.
@Jinxstar: Actually, cut and pasted from magazines might be a bit creepy :-D
@futuremrsfitz18: As long as it is his Great-Aunt Tilly, and as long as she sharpens her tongue on him, then that is just fine.
If Great-Aunt Tilly tries to make the case that it is women's work to write the thank-you notes, then kanadiea can send her to me and I will remind her how we marched together for equal rights back in the seventies.
If hubby-to-be comes here himself and asks, I'll back your argument to the hilt. Until then, though, Aunt Tilly is our best hope for civilization as far as he is concerned. It is not the wife's job to rear husband politely.
ha ha ha!! you all are awesome in your amusing responses.
I am fully aware of the importance of the handwritten notes, so I'll mention again that I'm for sure doing mine handwritten. It's more along the lines of can my husband get away with typing his?
We are lucky that there are no Great Aunt Tilly's to contend with, but I will gently remind him that his groomsmen & family members are more than deserving of a handwritten note for their thank you's. I appreciate you bee's who recognize that I can't force him to do anything!
I'm not sure if you ladies found this, but my husband tended to think of mostly his friends when he was thinking about our guests during our planning He kind of forgot about the variety of guests that existed; (i.e., his family, my friends, my family, in town, out of town guests, old and young). He even said at one point "everyone is coming from in town, so why are you worrying so much about people's travel plans?" We had almost HALF of our guest list from out of town (27 hotel rooms!), but most of them were on my side. He just kept forgetting that part.
I'm pretty sure that he's mostly considering that his friends could care less about whether the note is handwritten, and it will likely dawn on him as he's writing his family's and groomsmen's notes that he'll probably put a little extra into them.
Anyways, I'll let you know how it goes!
@kanadia82: handwritten....because even if it's personal typed, id assume the author did a lot of cut and pasting and reused some statements.
and i know in handwritten a lot of the sentences are the same, but it just feels more special when it's handwritten.
Is there any chance he wants to do it because his handwriting is tough to read or he has trouble with legible handwriting?
I know it sounds silly, but my other half is in IT and always typiing. He pretty much only signs his name. He can write in print reasonably well, but his cursive is horrible. He was joking around recently that he wasn't sure if he even could handwrite a note in cursive anymore. His little "test" for himself took him much longer than I would have expected and was damn near impossible to read. In that regard, I can see him wanting him to type notes instead of write them.
@LibertyBelle: This is exactly my problem. I got Cs in grade school in handwriting. I'm a programmer. I take notes in meetings by typing. I type my grocery list. I can hand print if I need to do it, which is what I've been doing on cards, but no one, including me, can read my writing. I'd be tempted to hire a calligrapher for my thank yous if it was in the budget.
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Hello! Just got married and now working on the Thank You's to all the people who were so generous to us!
Here's the Question - is is ok to print out a note instead of handwriting? I'm not talking about a preprinted generic message, that would be horrendous. My husband wants to type out his personalized notes in the cards rather than handwrite them.
I want to handwrite them, and we are planning on splitting up the list so he does his side and I do mine. It may turn out that we have some printed and some handwritten, but nobody would be comparing them anyways.
What do you bees think - is it too much like an email if the card had a printed note in it?
We plan on including a photo of us as well.