Post # 1
I’m curious to hear from bees who had a private ceremony (either just the two of you, or with a very small amount of people), and then a larger more relaxed party at a later date.
I’ve heard of people doing this and at first I wondered “What’s the point? Why not just do it the traditional way if you’re going to end up throwing a party anyway?” But after much brainstorming with FI, it’s making more sense to me! I feel like I could get the privacy/intamacy I crave with the tiny ceremony, but still be able to include people in the celebration with the party…all without feeling like I have to try too hard to be all fancy and stuff. If we go this route then the party would probably be a BBQ the next day. No pressure for fancy silverware, linens, copious amounts of flowers, seating charts, etc. I’m excited because I think I FINALLY had my a-ha moment.
So bees who went this route, what say you…
- What was your reason for doing it this way?
- Do you think it was less stressful doing it like this than the traditional ceremony+reception?
- Did you meet any resistance from people who couldn’t be in attendance at the actual ceremony?
Post # 3
@Galang_Gyal: We aren’t married yet, but are doing this.
We did not want a big church or civil wedding. I wanted something very small and intimate. That said, we did want to celebrate with our friends after the fact. I don’t think it’s any less stressful. The wedding ceremony is the cheap and easy part. None of our friends have expressed disappointment. Most people are more interested in the party anyway.
Post # 4
I’m already married and planning the big party!
I don’t necessarly want everyone that I want to celebrate, eat, drink, and dance with at a ceremony. i’m private.
Post # 5
I was a guest to one of those parties where we were not invited to the ceremony. I was not offended by it and I had a good time.
Post # 6
@SeaSalt: Good to hear from someone who’s doing this! I’m getting more and more convinced that this is the right thing for us.
@bebero: I hear that. I’m a private person as well so it was kind of making me anxious imagining all these people staring at me in this intimate moment. I love them all but it seems awkward lol.
@Cady: Thank you for the guest perspective!