Post # 1
Okay… It’s a short rant, but this has happened to me often enough that it’s starting to bug me a bit.
I love it when people PM me with questions about my wedding or Savannah or whatever. I’m happy to share what I did or experienced or give vendor info… I love helping other brides, and it’s flattering that someone liked what I did enough to PM me specifically.
But is it too much to expect a simple thank you after going to the trouble of looking up a phone number or address or website or even answer a question to help someone who wrote a PM? I don’t think so…
Now, I know sometimes I don’t have the information someone is actually looking for, but even then, it would be nice to get a thank you, because I do take the time to respond and let the person know I don’t know… A “thanks anyways” would be nice…
I guess it’s just a common courtesy thing to me. If I ask someone for help, thank them even if they can’t help because I requested something from them. It’s polite to say thank you.
Okay… I’m done ranting.
Post # 3
Unfortunately, common courtesy, along with common sense these days, it seems has gone down the toilet. Along with genuine customer service, as well. It’s like people have no manners! I mean, I’m no Emily Post, but, c’mon, basic pleases and thank yous and your welcomes aren’t Chinese water torture, people!
*Okay, end soap box rant*
In short, OP, I agree with you, that would annoy me too.
Post # 4
@Wonderwoman217: Thanks. It’s nice to know I’m not crazy feeling this way. And, I agree…common courtesy does seem to have gone down the toilet… It’s a shame too.
I hear you about the customer service thing too…
Post # 5
No I totally feel the same way. It irks me when I do something out of the ordinary (look something up or whatever) and can’t get even a “great thanks!” Or whatever. Boo!! Unfortunately it colors my perception of that poster for a while after that until I forget. haha.
Post # 6
@Loribeth: It’s definitely not just you. I have had several PM’s lately, I always respond, and nothing! Oh well!
Post # 7
I guess the hardest thing for me to understand is why here on a forum where everyone is so helpful and considerate of each other that common courtesy and politeness are thrown out the window when a fellow bee asks something in a PM.
Post # 8
@Loribeth: Ive had similar experiences and it irks me too!
Post # 9
From the other side, sometimes it depends. If I get a one or two word response or a one line response from a bride about like a Classifieds listing that has sold, I don’t send “thanks anyways”, mostly cuz I don’t want to bother them anymore. But I’ve never asked straight up for advice before…
Post # 10
It’s not just PM’s. Many’s the time I have looked up something or made suggestions in response to a post and the OP never acknowledges anyone’s contributions- not just mine. “No replies since” are my 3 least favorite words.
Post # 11
@julies1949: oooh i do hate that too. i like to update my posts and respond. that’s half the fun!