- 7 years ago
A lot of people have posted similar questions involving eloping because of military obligations, insurance purposes, etc. My situation is diferent from these and I’m hoping to get some opinions…
My fiance and I have been together almost 10 years sort of (we dated in high school and college, and broke up for about 3 years, but now have been together again for 3 years, so it’s been almost 10 years since we first started dating). This September will be the 10th year since we started dating. Our anniversary date in September has always been very special to us and no matter when we actually get married, we will most likely continue to celebrate the September anniversary.
We have been planning a February wedding for many reasons- we don’t want to be rushing to try to plan a wedding in a month to be ready for this September, we can’t afford to wait until next summer because summer weddings where we live are twice the cost of a winter wedding, and he needs to be focuing on studying by March for a huge test he has in June. We were very happy with our decision for a February wedding until….I found out my best friend and matron of honor couldn’t come on that date, so we changed it to the weekend before. Now we just found out that our new date is shceduled to be Superbowl Sunday! We’ve already paid a downpayment and don’t feel comfortable asking the venue to reshcedule again, especially since the NFL lockout isn’t over, so the Superbowl could possibly be the following Sunday. Plus who knows if our team will even be in the Superbowl. But if they are, and it is on that date, most of the men in our families will be preoccupied. The point is, we just want to get married, and while it’s important to us to have a wedding with our loved ones, the planning seems to just hit one issue after another. Would it be awful if we just had a private ceremony on our September anniversary with just us and a minister, to have it be just about us and our relationship and committment, and none of the other stuff, and then in Feb. have the ceremony and reception with our families and friends? The other thing is that I don’t want to disappoint my mom and she would be very hurt if she wasn’t there for our wedding, so we would probably not tell anyone that we were already married. Is that awful?