- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
Ok, our budget is small as is our guestlist. We only invited 40 people to the wedding/picnic for our private immediate family and a few close friends. Afterward we are a getting together to go to a local benefit concert for a local child with cancer. A lot of extended close friends attend these benefits and are excited that we are having our second extended reception there to celebrate. It is a BOYB event that has a $20 admission. We have put the word out that we don’t want gifts only to spend time with friends and their admission to this event to help a local child with cancer and their presence is gift enough.
(I am aware that the etiquette police would jump on me that we are asking guests to pay their own admission and bring their own drinks but this cause is very important to us and most of our friends would be paying the admission anyways.)
Onto my question, my neighbor T is more of an acquaintance to me. She is younger than I am and her family dynamics are strange. She is 25 and asks her grandma whom she lives with along with her 1 yo son permission to attend and go places. She is not allowed to drive by herself. Her and her grandma frequently fight and yell at one another. Well she was an extended guest that wasn’t invited to the wedding but was invited to the get together afterwards.
She is on disability. First she asked me about bringing her grandma and son to the benefit concert because she wouldn’t be able to drive by herself. This isn’t an event that neither her grandma not a baby would enjoy. My own children do not attend this. I told her the cost was $20 per person. She said well can’t I just bring Grams and the baby to the wedding instead? I told her that I would have to check with Fiance because some of his family hasn’t RSVP’d yet and I wasn’t sure we could permit any additional people.
I do not want her infant (although there will be kids there they are older and understand you hush during certain times) nor do I want her Grams who will scream T’s name across the venue to get her attention. If she asks again, what do I say about this? If it was just her, I wouldn’t have a problem with it but she really doesn’t know anyone.