Pro breast feeding, but making a decision that means I won't be able to.

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: If you were anti formula and needed a breast reduction you would;
    Wait until you had finished having children to have the reduction and deal with the back problems : (14 votes)
    14 %
    Get the reduction now and deal with breast feeding issues once you're ttc/pregnant/have given birth : (88 votes)
    85 %
    Other (is there another option?) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    295 posts
    Helper bee

    I feel your pain. I always been large breasted and even when I lost a lot of weight (like 40 lbs) they still stayed a DD. Currently I sit at a DDD. What I would consider doing is if you are on the wait lisit now just go for it when your name comes up or do it between children. I know I plan on getting the reduction but not for another ten years from now and after we have kids because I know my boobs will just be to large by then and even more oddly shapped then what they are (they have always been long and skinny as well saggy).

    Post # 4
    105 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011


    If your breasts are still growing, have you consulted a doctor to see if there is something causing them to be so large e.g. a growth hormone problem? I am no doctor so have no idea if such things are possible, but I wonder, if there is an underlying problem, there may be other temporary options that you can try until you have had your family.

    I am pretty sure there must be some online forums about this where women who have had the surgery can share their stories of breast feeding afterwards.

    I am pro breast feeding too so understand your desire to breast feed your children, however, if you have the surgery and then can no longer do it YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER! You could argue that by not having it, you set yourself up for difficult and dangerous pregnancies….

    good luck with your decision and I hope you can find some good medical information to help inform your decision.


    Post # 5
    75 posts
    Worker bee

    I don’t have any personal experience with this issue but I have a cousin who recently had a breast reduction while she was still in highschool – her problems were that bad. I know that she was concerned about the breast feeding issue – though I don’t know her stance on it. What I do know is how much she LOVED the results.

    Since the procedure her self-confidence has grown so much (and her boobs look AH-MAZING). She spent most of her life feeling really self-conscious about her body since she developed so early and getting the reduction has made a huge impact how she feels about herself.

    I know that you feel really strongly about breast feeding but there are options (donor milk) and it’s not a for sure complication. If you’re that physically and mentally miserable I personally think it would be worth risking because you’re right in saying that it’s only going to get worse after pregnancy.

    Post # 7
    1234 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have a friend who was in the EXACT same situation, and she got the surgery in late fall of last year. Honestly, she’s never been happier. She loves that she can buy clothes that fit her without spending a fortune and she feels so much more confident. Plus it really helped with the back problems she was having.

    So although I advocate breastfeeding, in cases like this, I think if you have to bottle feed, it’s fine. You’re not being selfish- in order to have a healthy baby, you have to have a healthy mom first, and it will be hard to deal with giant breasts and back problems throughout your pregnancy. It will make it easier to chase around after toddlers and stay up and active throughout your pregnancy, as well. I would focus on the positives of this surgery instead of getting hung up on this one issue. Breast-feeding is not the be-all-end-all of your child’s health. It is totally possible to have a perfectly happy, healthy baby who’s been bottle-fed. And maybe you will be able to breastfeed afterwards; you won’t know until your consultation. There is also the possibility that without the surgery, you still couldn’t breastfeed; I doubt it woud be easy attempting to breastfeed with large breasts.

    Basically, I think you should get the surgery. Even though it may make it impossible to breast feed (which you don’t know for sure yet), it will make other aspects of pregnancy and motherhood so much easier, and a happy mom is essential for a happy baby!

    Post # 8
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Mischka:  This is a no brainer – have the breast reduction surgery, you are in too much pain. Your SO supports you, who cares what other people say?

    Yes breast is the ideal, but not everyone can. Your kids will be fine. I breast fed but I know women who couldn’t and their kids have been fine. I’ve had the “non ideal” in other ways (c-section instead of vaginal birth). It happens. No way should you suffer for a decade for sake of the slight benefits of breast feeding. (And who knows, after suffering for a decade, you might not be able to breast feed anyway for an unrelated reason).

    Post # 9
    948 posts
    Busy bee

    I am super pro-breastfeeding.  My mother nursed me until I was four years old!  That said, there are all kinds of circumstances that can interfere with a woman’s ability to breastfeed, or to provide enough milk to sustain her child (requiring formula supplementation).  You need to do what it best for your health at this point. 

    If you had ovarian or uterine cancer, you wouldn’t refuse to have treatment because it would reduce your chances of being able to have children, would you?  Granted, that’s a terminal illness if left untreated, and this situation is not, but the same principle applies.

    Post # 10
    1688 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Mischka:  Please get the reduction. Your situation sounds awful and I can’t imagine another 12 years of pain and discomfort.

    Imagine if you got pregnant and your breasts got even bigger. That would make your pregnancy unbearably (sp?) painful. 

    I wish you luck!

    Post # 12
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would get the reduction. I was bottle fed and I’m all good!

    Post # 13
    4138 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Not really on topic but I think you should look into a custom bra fitting and some physiotherapy for your back. Improving strength and posture may help while you wait for the surgery. 

    Post # 14
    844 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    OMG THIS. I’m also 36GG and growing, 5’4 too, Though I’m only 20. It is concerning, and the pain can be really awful at times.

    What I will say is that the years of pain that you’ll have to endure with the breasts does, I think, outweigh the benefits of breastfeeding. As someone who experiences exactly the same problems, I know that I’m worried about one day having kids and not being able to breastfeed, not being able to buy nursing bras in a large size, or any comfortable bras at all during that time. I’m also scared of the horrible effect that BFing would do to large breasts – finding a bra would never be the same again. So I would urge you to really think if the pain, discomfort and monetary costs will be worth it in the long run vs just buying some formula milk.

    You can also look into donor milk or even wetnursing if you’re seriously set on BFing, but I’d say relief from your pain comes first.

    Post # 15
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    You don’t always lose the ability to breast feed and if you are in such pain thats not good for the baby either. So I don’t think there is anything wrong if you can afford it and want it. The only thing i would suggest first is to make sure you are wearing the right size bra. measure under your breasts and that measurment in inches is your underband and don’t add 4!! (That was how bras used to be measured before we invented elastic and other stretch materials. Basically you can then use this underband to find out your proper cup size. It may feel snug at first but you get used to it and it is lifechanging. i considered getting a breast reduction when i was a 32F – turns out im actually a 28GG and I don’t want/need the reduction anymore because I’m nolonger in pain.

    if you are still in pain or you are already in the right size bra and its not helping then it really is up to you to make the decision – its so personal the play off between pain and breastfeeding. But I wish you luck in whatever you do.

    Post # 16
    7290 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    What if you wait for the surgery and your back gets so bad that it inhibits your interaction with your future kids? What would you rather risk- possibly not being able to breast feed or possibly not being able to play catch with your kids or not be able to stand on the sidelines whilst they play sport?

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