Post # 1
as the bride, I’m doing my own hair/makeup. I’ve run this by the pros who would otherwise be doing my hair/makeup and they’ve confirmed that’s a good plan and I’m doing tons of test runs. I also like this plan because it means I won’t have to start getting ready until sometime 1/1:30 (wedding is at 5 w no pics beforehand) and can hang out swimming etc w my girls til then.
My 2 hairstylists will likely attend my wedding as guests. I wasnt planning on setting up anything w them for my bridesmaids because I’m doing my own, not requiring anything for hair, wont payfor anybody’s hair, don’t want my parents to pay for everybody’s hair behind my back w money that we’d rather spend on other wedding expenses (they pulled this for hair/makeup at my sibling’s wedding where both were supposed to only be optional at each girl’s own expense), and I don’t want any of us to need to start getting ready before 1. If hair is pro, ppl would probably start needing to get ready sometime 9-11am. I asked months ago and none of my girls said they’d want their hair done (most didn’t respond to the question).
do I have to let my bridesmaids know that they can get one of these pro hair stylist guests to do their hair, let them know the costs, and then schedule it or can I just tell them that we’re all doing our own hair together and eliminate all the fuss of pro hair stylist issues and timing?
Post # 2
I don’t think you need to tell your girls that they have the option of a pro, but I do think you should mention to them that they will need to bring any styling products, hair pins/bands/accessories and styling tools they will need to do their own hair. If they aren’t comfortable doing their own hair once you tell them they need to bring their own stuff, that’s when I would mention the pro option.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
My mom did my hair. My cousin did my mom and sister’s (MOH) hair. My other MOH, SIL and MIL brought in their hair stylist. And my cousins did their own hair.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Your stylists are attending as guests. I wouldn’t offer them up to work. If one of your maids really wants pro hair, I think she can probably research a pro on her own. They’re all big girls who can take care of themselves, right?
Post # 5
lovekiss: it’s a domestic destination wedding, so nobody could find hair stylists on their own really. the stylists attending would love to do whatever I’d like them to- they’ve known me nearly all my life and would be fine just as guests or doing hair first then being guests. they want me to decide which it’ll be since that was a mess and not clear w my sister’s wedding.
Bearimbolo: they all know that I’m not having hair or makeup pros and are fine with it and know what they need to bring (and I’m not asking any of them to look any different than normal and those of us with more skills are pitching in to help others). If it’s okay not to give hair pro option but someone starts getting worried about hair later on, I’d rather just let it be and have other bridesmaids help her out. for example, one bridesmaid loves retro styles and looks, but can’t pull off a full pro retro hairstyle herself. I’m fine with her doing her own diy retro look. But it’d look weird if she has some pricey, clearly pro elaborate retro style while my hair is in the simple (but pretty) style Im doing myself. Right?
Post # 6
Shkragoldfish: I think if you have a pretty unfussy style, a professionally done retro style might look out of place. A sock bun (or one of those donut cushion things) is a really easy way to DIY an elegant updo if anyone is lost for ideas 🙂
Post # 7
I agree that if you are not doing pro hair, it will look odd if the bridesmaids have elaborate, obviously professional styles. That said, I’m not really comfortable doing my own hair and would want to know that at least someone in the bridal party might be able to help me out! Are at least some of your bridesmaids good at doing their own hair and would be willing to help out others who might not be as comfortable with it?
I’d just confirm with everyone that you are planning on doing your own hair and see what everyone’s comfort level is with doing their own. If people are really stressing out about their hair, you could also see if your stylist friends could do more of a quick style that would be faster, easier, and cheaper than a full updo. I once had a stylist just curl my hair for a wedding (that I was attending as a guest). It took her about 15 minutes and she charged me very little.