Post # 1
My FI and I bought our first home and take posession of it tomorrow. We’re thrilled, and I couldn’t be happier about it.
We sat down this weekend and looked at our finances, and with the major kitchen renovation we want to do immediately after the wedding (ie: right before we have a baby, which we want to do in the first year of our marriage), closing costs and of course, the wedding, there is no money leftover for a honeymoon. Or a vacation before the wedding.
We’re having a very practical, inexpensive wedding. FI doesn’t believe in going into debt over it, and neither do I. I’m proud of the choices we’ve made to keep costs down and the home we’ve purchased together, but I can’t get over the sadness I’m feeling about no honeymoon.
Sure, we could save up a little and go later – but again, we want to have children right away and aren’t willing to wait to start a family. This was basically our only shot at a big, romantic vacation, just the two of us. Is anyone else in the same boat? How do I get over it?
Post # 3
JUST my two cents, so take it for what its worth, but I hope you try to take even a 3-4 day trip away especially since you are planning on having children right away. If you want a child within a year, your chances of getting to take a trip alone again go waaaaaaay down. Take advantage while you can! Put the remodel off for a couple months. This is a really special time in your relationship you’ll never get back. I am all for practicality and you guys seem to really have your heads on straight when it comes to priorities, but don’t cheat yourself out of this opportunity to celebrate your marriage alone before all the rest of it comes along!
Post # 4
I would say do something small and fun for the two of you just to celebrate being newlyweds, and plan on a bigger trip down the road. You could def. do something fun in your area (go to a different town) and act like tourists! Just get a hotel room for a few nights, have a really nice dinner with one another, and don’t break the bank.
A honeymoon is nice, but being financially secure (and owning a home!! congrats!!) and planning for a family is much more important in my eyes!
Post # 5
That’s stinky…. congrats on the house though! =)
I’m not sure where Calgary is but have you thought about maybe a minimoon?
Thats what DH and I did, which really for us fit for a full honeymoon…
We found a REALLY great bed and breakfast a few hrs from here where we were able to stay 4 nights for under $700. We spent most of our time just relaxing together (as the grounds were amazing) and went to a near by city for a nice day out and about… Nothing huge but still together… =)
Maybe something like that… maybe even just 3 nights for a long weekend?
Post # 6
It sucks that there won’t be a dream honeymoon. I’m def all about the dreams, girl.
But maybe for now a nice weekend get-a-way? I think amnystick’s idea is a GREAT idea!
Don’t give up hope! Things may change around soon enough! <3
Post # 7
I agree, a long weekend would be really good, and you would appreciate it down the road.
Post # 8
my parents had their honeymoon after having kids… it can be done if you have family that’s willing to babysit for that long.
otherwise, i say put off the kitchen renovation for a while.
Post # 9
If you don’t get to do some sort of honeymoon before the kids come, you can still do romantic vacations after you have kids. That’s what grandparents are for : )
Post # 10
What about this place?… I just had to try and help.. I no like discouragement 😉
I liked it b/c of the bathtub and the “open” room…. makes for large bathroom area and I just like it…
Or this one
I love the view from the balcony in the River View Suite
Sorry if I’m way off… just thought I’d try =)
Post # 11
We spent a weekend at The Roxbury Hotel in the Catskills. It was an amazing experience. All the rooms were different themes. It was very unique. There was horse back riding, zip-lining, all the like.
I def believe you can find a solution to this!
Post # 12
I congratulate you on your very smart financial choices. However, some things in life have to be emotional. You are not going to have the opportunity to be newlyweds again. If you don’t HAVE to re-do the kitchen, I recommend taking a honeymoon and putting that off a little. We had to delay ours due to finances, but I refused to even think about a baby until we had that week together. Besides, a honeymoon baby is a great souvenir:)
Post # 13
Thanks everybody – you’re right, it is importnat. And though I’ve always had my heart set on a week-long tropical vacation with my new husband, a three-day local getaway would be nice, too. I appreciate all of your suggestions.
Post # 14
@emtee: If you’re going to go somewhere closer to home…how about Banff? So nice!!
Post # 15
YOu must do at least something small, have you thought about setting up a little honeymoon registry, if I was a guest I would totally buy you a hotel night (or chip in at least) for a small get away, I think even a weekend is good for the soul- you need to decompress after all this planning!
We have one for both honeymoon and household tools and stuff at http://www.uponourstar.com – just set up a small one, plan a long weekend and see what happens! It can’t hurt, a nice dinner out, hotel, I think you won’t be disappointed!
Post # 16
I have a 3 year old and I don’t want to leave him for more than 2-3 nights. We are thinking about going away to Maine (I’m in NB) for a few nights. We want at least a night or two away, since we want to TTC as soon as we’re married.