(Closed) Probably not going to make any friends this way

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I 110% agree that using the words "cheap," "tacky," etc. is just not at all constructive and just serves to make people feel bad about themselves and their wedding plans. There are ways to express your opinion regarding these matters without using loaded words like this. Everyone has a right to their own opinion, and that is the point of these boards, but let’s all keep it positive!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

it’d be nice if people could try but some people do come on her for straight-up honest advice, and they get it! I know sometimes I come on the boards when I’m in a bad mood (I shouldn’t) and it might come out in my posts. I’ve even written responses to some posts and deleted the response before I even submit it because I realize a little snark is coming through!

I guess that being said, maybe people should make an extra effort to re-read their posts and think twice before they get too nasty. At the same time, maybe people coming for advice need to be a little open to people playing the devil’s advocate!

Post # 5
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903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Amen to that! I think it’s okay if you let someone know if you don’t agree with their choice, but often I find that people refer to any cost-cutting measure as "tacky", which feels a little harsh for those of us who have no choice but to cut costs.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Amen, sistah!

Thank you for that, very well put!

Post # 7
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Kudos!! Thanks for speaking up 🙂

Post # 8
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601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

oh sweet lord i’ve thought the exact same thing EVERYTIME I read the word "tacky"

Tacky is for glue only   🙂 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Haha!  I love vents like this, just love it! 

There is no tacky!  There is now the beloved DIY!  And sales!  I mean really, we’re in a massive recession, doing things on a budget is intelligent!  We should just say AWESOME. 

Post # 10
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Well said! I am in agreement. Different strokes for different folks! One person’s "tacky" may be another’s "beautiful" or even just "necessary." This is a forum for assistance, not judgement.

Post # 11
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

couldn’t have said it better myself

Post # 12
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i agree tessabella!!! well put!!!

however, i must also add that my experience with wedding bee thus far has been quite pleasant…when i post, i have never encountered any nastiness or caught offense from fellow bees, and every one on here has been super nice and super helpful!!! y’all are like my new BFF’s! haha

i do think Bees that post pictures of wedding dresses for advice /choices, etc. are looking for honest non biased answers and opinions from the other Bees, however I agree that you can be honest while being constructive.  i have seen several Bees on here that will say "oh i like option 2 because it accentuates your (insert complimented body feature here)"…and i like that!  i find that its helpful and constructive without "dogging" the other choices that the bee had posted for opinions. 

good post though! we should all try to be more considerate of each other as much as possible!

 

Post # 13
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I don’t really understand where this post is coming from. Most every time I see tacky on Weddingbee it is from a bride asking if X is tacky. When I was trying to find your post, I saw it at work and reminded myself I wanted to comment on it later, I did a search and found a lot of titles with tacky in it that said is XYZ tacky.

I agree with an earlier poster that people come here for honest advice. If it is the bride/planner throwing the word tacky in, they want to hear from real people their honest opinions about decision making. I am a frequent reader and do not see attacks, if anything I see people being careful to say, "I respectuflly disagree" with so and so and giving their perspective.  

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Thanks for this post! I always try to think twice (or three times) before posting to make sure it is positive feedback!

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