(Closed) Problem FSIL… I don’t want her there

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
14337 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you dont want her there and your Fiance is ok with that, I’d say go ahead and not invite her.  She doesnt seem to support the marriage if she doenst like you so she should not be there imo.   However, since you say his parents are family oriented and may be bothered by this, just be prepared for a possible fall out with them unless they undertsand what is going on and support you and your FIs decision not to invite her as well, unless you are ready to be on bad terms with them also.. 

Post # 4
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree, I think if you’ve talked with your fiance and you’re both onboard with the decision that she shouldn’t be there, don’t invite her. Only you know the difference between some minor resentment and flatout dislike and you should go with your gut. Like pinkshoes brought up, though, be prepared for some backlash and stand your ground.

Post # 5
7653 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Future Sister-In-Law made a HUGE stink about her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for 9 months. She was downright ugly to me. She never sent me a pic of her in her dress, so I asked her mom who showed me a picture. All I did was send her a text that she looked beautiful and she f-ing blew up. She sent me a 17 long text message about how I’m being an immature child by going behind her back and asking her mom for a pic when I should have asked her, not being included in planning, us never asking her to be in the wedding. Appearantly, we forced her. She was also mad because she hated the dress. She wanted me to pay her back for it even though her dad bought it. I told her she could just not come to the wedding, which was something Fiance agreed with. She got so upset that I was “obviously speaking for both.” I couldn’t do it anymore. This was a family issue.

Fiance called her and they yelled back and forth for an hour about how selfish she is. He told her either you wear the dress and stop acting selfish or don’t come, so you better take the night to think about it. Nothing was resolved until the next day. She decided to stay in the wedding.

I am slightly worried about drama, but my Fiance is happy that his sister will be there, and the family can enjoy the day together. You need to be prepared to deal with FI’s family if they are family oriented. If they understand what Future Sister-In-Law does to you, you will have some support on your side, but be VERY careful with this battle. Even though Fiance agrees, you need to be prepared to deal with backlash….

Post # 6
3303 posts
Sugar bee

Hmmmm. I am not sure, so good luck with this. Think though that this will extend beyond one day if you choose not to invite her.

Post # 8
3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

His parents are very “family oriented” and think that everyone should put aside their differences for the day of our wedding.

@o_valencia:  I hate it when people get all Pollyanna and think everyone should just kiss and make up.  Because it’s not that simple.  Some people are just imcompatible, even if blood related.  

My sister and I haven’t talked in 7 years.  I had family members on my butt when I was getting married saying I should make up with her so she could be my Maid/Matron of Honor.  Uh, no.  She’s a bitch, and I want nothing to do with her.  I’m sure the feeling is mutual.

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