- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I have been married only four months and these have been the most difficult four months of my life. I was introduced to my husband two years ago and, although we had arguments, the majority of them were because of his mother. I have always sensed that she doesn’t like me and raised this with my husband. He spoke to her and she phoned me acting sweet. This didn’t last long.
My husband and I live with his parents. Since we have been married, so much has happened and it has mostly been as a result of my mother in law. She constantly shouts at me when my husband isn’t around, she throws my food out, she phones people bad mouthing me, she tries to fill my husband’s ears with things and lies about almost everything.
I am petrified of her. If I wash dishes, I get scared that there’s water around the sink that I haven’t wiped away. I shake constantly and have lost lots of weight. I went to see my doctor who said that I am close to being depressed. She advised me that this is a result of the situation that I am in and if I ever feel down then I need to remove myself from the situation.
One thing my mother in law can’t stand is that I do not eat her food. She doesn’t know how to cook and has admitted this a few times. I have said that I will cook for everyone but she hates me being in the kitchen. I make my own food (I also make it for everyone if they want it) and am not a burden on anyone. She has thrown my food out many times.
He says that I am the love of his life and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but I hardly see anything from him showing that. Words are one thing but actions are another. I do not want to get divorced and I suggested that we rent or find our own place. His answer to this is not until the situation at home is resolved.
Neither of us has been in a relationship before but I don’t believe you have to in order to treat somebody properly.
I feel so sad about everything but am trying to stay strong. I had hope yesterday when we spoke that he would reassure me but whilst he says he loves me he can’t get away from his mum. I told him his mum lied about so many things and I mentioned them all and he went quiet. He knows that she lies.
I have suggested counselling but he said no.
I was on my laptop and saw that he had been searching for houses within a 5 mile radius of his parents.
If he can’t see what his mum is doing to us, then I am scared he will never realise. I am so worried that this is heading for divorce. I just don’t know what to do now.
I’m sorry that this is all over the place but I am unable to think coherently.