(Closed) Problems this far in advance?

posted 9 years ago in June 2010
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hey, take a deep breath!  I know it’s really hard not to plan in advance(I got engaged about 18 months before our set wedding date), but sometimes things just can’t be helped.

I can’t speak for the midwest, but I can tell you that there are several churches in my area(Houston) that don’t book more than one year in advance.  They just put you on a waiting list at best.  This is pretty standard as far as I can tell.

As for the other vendors…I think it’s very vendor specific.  Honestly, I think sometimes it’s best to wait as long as possible – keep in mind many vendors will require a deposit of 20% or more.  We’ve had many a bride recently who has lost a significant amount of their money because the vendors they chose too early went bankrupt or closed up shop.

I would just calmly talk to your pastor about the church deal – ask him when the church typically books up(our pastor was able to let us know that they mostly have spots even within 6 months of a wedding date, with the exception of the most popular months). 

In any case, enjoy your engagement!  Trust me, when you’re neck-deep in finances, planning, and such, you’ll wish you did! 🙂

Post # 4
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Worker bee

We booked our ceremony/reception venue in February. It was actually a bonus for us to book so early because we got the 2009 rates, and apparently they were planning on increasing the price-per-person in 2010. Lucky us! I think this problem is probably vendor-specific. Is the church you want really sought after? I’m a fellow midwesterner, and I know I felt like unique, pretty and affordable venues were really hard to come by. There is a rose garden where I live that is really popular for weddings, and on the first business day of the new year they start making reservations for weddings for that year!! There are women who camp out overnight every year to get that venue. Imagine if you wanted a June wedding and had to wait till January of that same year to know if you got it!

Anyway, I feel for you because it kind-of makes it hard to plan anything else without knowing for sure if you can hold your ceremony on the day you want. Maybe try a few other churches. That way you can look for a reception venue in the meantime, and if when you call the church back in June your date is taken, you can have a few back-up plans ready and waiting.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hey! I saw your post in the general board listing and thought I’d comment, even though I’m getting married in June.

I got engaged in August 2007 and started research vendors that November for a June 2009 wedding. Although most places only booked a year in advance, once I found the venue I wanted, I made it very clear that I wanted it on a specific date and intended to book it. I then kept in periodic contact with the site’s wedding coordinator, keeping me on her radar. It paid off: one day, when I called to touch base around the time I’d finally be able to book, she said, "Oh yes, another couple was here today and wanted this spot on your date. Do you still want it?" So I was able to snatch it up!

Anyway, don’t be discouraged by not being able to book yet. You can ingratiate yourself with your top choice and in the meantime, you can work on things like your guest list, colors, invite, etc. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

 I can understand why you are frustrated.  You want to prepare well in advance.  Hey if you are going to have to wait a year and a half to get married, the least you could do is have exactly the location and date you want, right?  (That’s how I felt, anyway.)  SO it throws a monkey wrench in it, to have to fight it out with the masses who won’t even be engaged for another three months.

Can you book the venue you know you want, for the date you want?  (Making sure you stay on top of the church, as I know you will.)  But if the date needs to be changed with the church, you can change the date with the reception hall too?  So you don’t lose your deposit?  I actually think you’ll be fine if you keep at the church.  Ask them when specifically they will open up your date to be booked?  (Then double check in the future.)  Just make sure you are first in line when they open that date up.  I might even try the day before. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

<font size=”2″ color=”#81a026″>I got married in Iowa (western Iowa although I lived in Iowa City) last summer and I had vendors look at me like I was crazy to plan a year ahead, inlcuding my church. Maybe its an Iowa thing :)</font>

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had some people think I was crazy to be doing stuff so far in advance.  I’m getting married this June, and I pretty much had everything booked last summer and the invitations printed (everything I could get done then I got done).  Some people thought I was a litttle nutty, but that was when I had time to get it done — I’m really busy the rest of the year (grad student and all).  Most of my vendors told me it was good to be booking when I was.  You can lock in lower pricing, and have your pick of vendors.  It will also give you more time to play with the fun details and deal with anything unexpected that pops up. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I tried to book a church 13 months out, and they told me they don’t book until you’ve taken your pre-martial counseling classes- which are only 6 months out from your date!

We chose a different church.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

June is an extremely popular month. We got engaged in late March of 2008 and both places we seriously considered were fully booked for Saturdays in June. But since we were looking in the D.C. metro area, maybe that’s just how it is here. It surprises me that they are making you wait…I’m not getting married in a church so maybe that’s just what churches do.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We got engaged at Christmas and knew we wanted to get married June 2010.  I called our church in January and the secretary was surprised I wanted to book that early, but the priest met with us.  We were the first wedding they booked for 2010.  I wanted to make sure I got the date I wanted since I only want to get married in that church. 

Our reception venue was a different story. I thought I had plenty of time to book it, but they already started booking for next year!  I ended up booking them last week because I was afraid to wait any longer.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yea.. family and friends act as if i am odd seeing as i have over a year ( been engaged since 2007) and i am planning everything when I can.  Even the vendors act that way. But i have school, work, i am moving, and planning alone can be a lot. 

 I did get lucky with our church, my aunt grew up in the church so her and her husband know the pastor and were married by him (i love that they are 7 years older than me) so I was aloud to book whenever I wanted, for the whole day, and I can have it how I want it.

Other than that, everywhere else is acting  weird about it.

 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was originally planning for April, yet when the reception hall was booked, i decided to change the date. Yet this works out better because more people will be out of school. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We actually found the venue we want back in February, but since they’re not a "Wedding Venue" they didn’t even have a calendar for 2010 yet, let alone start booking events for June.  Our bigger concern is the Church.  We’re having a "mini" destination wedding – by which i mean that our location is 2 hours from where we live.  We need to get a check to them to book the date, but its not like i can just stop by after work and drop it off.  So we’re holding our breath waiting for them to call us back.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

 We got engaged July 2008 and are marrying June 26, 2010. Some people thought I was crazy to book the church in Sept. 08 but I was secure in my decision of the date and where. the adminstrator at the church didn’t even have a 2010 calendar yet but she said she would do a favour for me and book me in. We booked our reception site in December 08 – same place my parents had their reception 31 years ago – so cool!

I think if you let them know like Amysue did about the specific date and why you want that location most are willing to keep you at the top of the waiting list or they will "squeeze" you in. Be patient and make sure you show your interest.

 Best of luck ladies.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

Wow – we got engaged in March 2009 and are getting married in May 2010.  We didn’t have any problems with booking so far in advance – if anything, we were advised (by friends who had just gone through the process) to start booking ASAP.  We ended up booking our venue for May 30, 2010,  and the day before as well as several weekends before and after were already booked up!

 

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