(Closed) Problems with FMIL

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3303 posts
Sugar bee

Limit the time you guys spend with her. If she continues to be horrible, she can not be around you both.

Post # 4
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If your planning a family you need to have a discussion before about how involved she’ll be and will this be in front of your children. Your fi is an adult able to speak up for himself children have no say in how they are treated. So I would at least work those issues out ahead of time. Speaking from experience here. Grandchildren up the craziness!

Post # 5
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This sounds like my MILs mother.  She is a nasty piece of work who ALWAYS picked on her and still does, even though my Mother-In-Law goes and visits her all the time.  My Mother-In-Law refuses to speak up because she’s worried that it will stress her mom out but my fiance speaks up and tells her to knock it down a notch and she loves and respects him (probably BECAUSE he pushes back!).  Your fiance needs to learn how to demand respect from her.  It’s really as easy as ‘if you expect to have a relationship with me or with our children, you’ll need to treat me with respect.  If you can’t do this, then your choice is clear.’  And hold her to it.

Is it possible she’s getting early dementia?  How old is she? 

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