- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Hey fellow bees,
I have many issues but ill just try to give the gist.
My family and I have never been super close, always a constant battle with my mother her constant reminder of how she raised me and my sister by herself etc. (Even tho my step dad was in the mix 2 years after my real father wasnt)
There was nothing I could do right by her if i got an A+ or an award it was a good for you, pat on the back, my sister though could receive a D and be thrown a party. This continued for years with the excuse that she needed more encouragement. (OK kinda BS after awhile)
Fastforward 15 years and i became engaged. The news was taken with a sigh followed by wow congrats… thats it.
Months go by no mention of it to me or my FI whenever we had a BBQ or dinner. My engagement party was coming up and my sister (who i had to chase down, wouldnt answer my calls, etc. WHO my mother insisted had to be a part of the bridal party and was shocked when i didnt make her MOH) So my sister is MIA the week before the engagemet party.
My mother and step father didnt help made some food which i was thankful for. But came late, made multiple excuses for my sister who showed up 5 hours late. ETc.
So 8 months till the wedding, i have not heard from my sister in 2.5 months. And my mother and step dad have gotten out of every possible family function with the soon to be inlaws, have not once asked me about the planning, and have tried to cause a fight when ever they could.
I have now built up such an animosity towards them all that i dont even know what to do. My step father has made it known that he doesnt think its cool to walk me down the aisle cause hed feel awkward with my real father there. My mother has made no effort yet pulls this “but im your mother card” with every phrase or arguement and my sister, old enough to have a masters degree but apparently too irresponsible to pick up or return a phone call.
Do I unbridesmaid her?
Do I find someone elsse ot walk me down the aisle?
Do i just send them all an invite and leave them out of the planning?
So confused and hurt.
Sorry for the long vent. I tried to keep it as concise as possible. SO much more drama has happened that would take pages to write. All i know is my other family and friends think its horrible behaviour. What do i do…