- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Fiance thinks I need to relax on this one, I’m ready to cut her loose and start the search over. Wedding is September 17th.
Met with an officiant in early December and we all clicked, she had a lot of great ideas for our ceremony, etc. She used to be a local newscast woman and majored in English (so very well spoken). Upon trying to plan her own wedding and having a problem with finding an affordable officiant, she decided to take the course and started performing weddings on the side. She told me she would get back with me after the holidays. She did not require any money upfront (total fee of $200 for the ceremony and the rehearsal). I asked about a contract but she stated she didn’t require one, that she’s never had any problems (but what about protecting US)? I left it at that, her word was enough.
In the meantime, our DJ double booked and backed out on us (no contract), but he did hook us up with another DJ (and we now have a contract). Our ceremony musician also backed out on us (his best friend is getting married the same day) so we allowed him out of his contract and are looking for another ceremony musician.
I panicked and started worrying about the lack of contract with the officiant and would she show up for our big day? I emailed her on January 5th:
“Good morning. First, I wanted to thank you for meeting with us back on December 2nd. Tyler and I both felt like there was a good bond between the three of us, and we have no doubt in your ability to provide us with the most amazing wedding ceremony.
We found out yesterday that the DJ we arranged for had double-booked and he backed out on us. We obviously have plenty of time to find someone else, but this has caused a little alarm in my brain since we didn’t have any sort of contract with this DJ, and in reality, he could have left us high and dry at the last minute without any recourse from us.
For my own peace of mind, is there any sort of contract you already have, or one that you could draw up, so that we know we have you booked for September 17th (ceremony at 5 p.m. and rehearsal the Friday before)? It would also help to have the total amount being charged included so there isn’t any problems down the road with miscommunication. This in NO WAY is negative toward you whatsoever and I hope you don’t take it that way. With the DJ backing out, it’s just making me aware that without some sort of contract or agreement in place, we really don’t have any rights if something should go amiss. I would be more than happy to provide you with some sort of deposit – we are 100% confident that you are the one we want for our ceremony … at the same time, I just feel like I need a little security in that a contract is in place.
Thanks so much – hope you had a wonderful holiday season!”
She replied the same day, “Sure Karen, please draw up a contract. For your piece of mind. Everything is included in the 200 dollar fee, along with obviously the ceremony. Honestly, I have never had a problem with people not paying, so that is why I don’t require a contract, but I don’t mind signing one :-)”
With that, I put together a contract and mailed her two copies (one for me, one for her) and I also included a postage-paid return envelope. I didn’t hear anything from her, so I emailed her on January 18th (one week ago) and asked if she had received it. I also told her that our ceremony musician had also backed out and this has increased my need for some sort of contract. She replied that she had in fact received it and that she would get it signed and back out in the mail.
It’s now a week later and I still haven’t received it. At this point, I’m irritated and I’m starting to not trust her. I just don’t feel like we have any protection in this. Her lack of response is irritating as well – we’re in the same city so she received it January 6th … it’s now 20 days later. We did not put any sort of deposit down (she didn’t want any) but to me, that almost leaves it open so she can bail on us at the last minute without repercussions.
What do you think (if you’ve made it through this post – thank you)! 🙂