- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Has anyone here ever had problems with your chosen officiant?
My fiance and I are getting married in another province (we live in the Canadian Prairies and will be getting married in Nova Scotia – 6 hours by plane). We ended up finding a minister by reading church websites and profiles online. I emailed the minister, she said of course, and the church admin penciled it in. They did ask us to arrange a joint phone call, of course.
Which is where the problem happened. It’s a 3 hour time difference, so I emailed to see if we could arrange a time to call. No response. I emailed again. Nothing.
They phoned me once – the minister had a request to perform another ceremony the same day as ours, and wanted to check on the time of our ceremony, to see if she could do both. I replied.
Then I tried again to request a time to phone. Nothing. Finally I sent an email explaining that we really needed to coordinate something so we could both be present for the call – either waking up early to do it (the call would have to be before we leave for work), or come home from work early. I explained we wanted to plan out the ceremony, arrange a rehearsal, and find out the fee (since we hadn’t asked, just assumed it would be on average with other places). Still no response.
It has now been nearly 6 – 7 months without a phone call ever being arranged. I am nervous we don’t actually have an officiant, and our wedding is 4 months away. My fiance insists on a minister, so getting a JP (which would be SO much easier) isn’t an option.
Advice? Anyone been in this position before?