Post # 1
I recently went to a friend’s rehearsal dinner, and found out that her bridesmaids are walking down the aisle unescorted during the ceremony and her groom and his guys are just kind of appearing from off to the side at the beginning of the ceremony. I’ve heard of the ceremony beginning this way, but never seen it in action. For my wedding, which is coming up soon, I had planned on the following arrangemet:
Groom’s Father / Groom’s Step-Mother
Usher / Bride’s Mother
Grooms-Man 1 / Bridesmaid 1
Grooms-Man 2 / Bridemsaid 2
Best Man / Maid of Honour
Bride’s Father / Bride
I was discussing the order with my friend’s MC during the rehearsal dinner (she’s just a friend of the bride, not someone experienced in the wedding business) and she said she’d never heard of escorted bridesmaids and had only seen unescorted (with the groom and his guys just appearing from off to the side).
So have I been wrong all along? Is my procession way off from the norm?
Post # 3
Around here the bridesmaids almost always walk down with the groomsmen. I’ve never seen it done any other way.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@anonybee0810: The way you are doing it is just fine IMO. People do it a varities of ways based on their family that needs to be seated before and their wedding party (like if sides are uneven or in my case I had my bridesMAN walk with my Maid/Matron of Honor and then the groomsmen walked in single file behind my DH)
Post # 5
I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where the bridesmaids weren’t escorted by the groomsmen. I would find that really weird, actually.
Ours was really simple:
Groomsmen M / Bridesmaid or Best Man A / Groomsmen R
Groomsmen P / Bridesmaid or Best Man S
Groomsmen A / Bridesmaid or Best Man K
Best Man J / Maid/Matron of Honor H
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@anonybee0810: It depends on where you live and the type of wedding. I have seen both. I prefer to have the BMs go unescorted because I think it looks nicer to have the guys standing with the groom and officiant. But we’re have a short, casual ceremony. If you’re having a longer, more formal ceremony, I would not find it odd to have the processional proceed as you have it listed other than having the groom escort the MOG down the aisle. I have never seen that ever because the MOG is usually escorted by the FOG or an usher.
Post # 7
It must be regional. I’ve never been to a wedding where the bridesmaids were escorted by the groomsmen. The men come in the side with the groom and the bridesmaid walk down the aisle in front of the bride. They all walk out in pairs though.
Post # 8
@anonybee0810: I was in two weddings this year, in one we walked down unescorted, the other we were escorted by the groomsmen. I have seen both ways many times.
You could make a decision based on how your venue is set up – is it even feasible or would it even look right to have the boys enter from the side somewhere? I think the way you have it is perfect and there is nothing “wrong” with it. I’ve seen it done at a lot of weddings.
Post # 9
My wedding planner assumed our bridesmaids would walk down alone and the groomsmen would be coming in from the side and already be up front. I think it is pretty “normal” at least where I am, but I ended up doing:
groom / grooms mother
best man / brides mother
bridesmaid 1 / groomsman 1
bridesmaid 2 / groomsman 2
bridesmaid 3 / groomsman 3
maid of honor
flower girl / ring bearor
bride / brides father
My husband wanted to walk his mom down the aisle, which I thought was sweet.
Post # 10
I’ve only been to one wedding where the BMs were escorted to the front. I think either way is fine though.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
Here is the order we did for our processional:
– Grandparents of the Groom
– Grandparents of the Bride
– Officiant, Groom, Best Man
– Bridesmaids (unescorted)
– Bride and FOB
– Bride and Groom
– Bridesmaids escorted by Groomsmen
– Bride’s Parents
– Groom’s Parents
Post # 12
I’ve seen it done both ways. Just do what you like best.
Post # 13
I personally think it all depends on the size of the wedding party.
The ONLY wedding I’ve been to that the bridesmaids walked down with the groomsmen was when there were 14 bridesmaids and 14 groomsmen.
All other weddings I’ve been to, including my own, the bridesmaids walk alone.
Post # 14
@anonybee0810: I think it’s a personal choice.
BMs and Groomsmen
Flower Girl + Ring Bearer
Bride and Groom
We wanted to walk in together and like the idea that everyone is sort of “coupled-up” (regardless of whether they were couples or not). To us, it was a symbol that we were all on even ground. It was the only wedding I’d been to done that way though.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I’ve seen both too. My BFF’s wedding was one of the first ones I remember the bridesmaids walking down unescorted but since then I’ve seen it more and more frequently. We are now going this route too! It’s just easier at our venue to coordinate it this way too. Fiance liked the idea of having all the guys waiting up front with him too.
Post # 16
Thanks, everyone. I probably should have clarified that a big factor in our decision is that there is no way for Fiance and his guys to enter from the side – there’s no door/entrance/exit there at our wedding, so at some point, in some fashion, they will need to make that walk down the aisle.
Thanks for your imput! Sounds like we’ll probably end up sticking to the plan 😀