Post # 1
Miss Glitter’s post just reminded me of a question … how is your processional going to work? Who is walking you down (if anyone!)? How are your girls walking in? And how are your girls and his boys walking out? The other big question — how is HE getting to the "alter" … this is my main reason for the question. Both my fiance and I are very close with our parents. I am having both my mom and dad walk me down the aisle. I suggested to my fiance that he too have his parents walk him down the aisle. I know they would love this for many reasons — foremost being that they only have two boys, so they won’t get to walk anyone down the aisle!! (I know his mom wishes so badly she had a girl right now with all the wedding planning) He seems to think it would be a little strange … but I can picture it working out nicely.
What do you think?
Post # 3
So similar with the parent thing, HumarockBride! I will be walked down the aisle with both parents and I suggested he do the same (he is also one of two sons, and his mom is sooooo into the wedding). He thinks it would be weird so vetoed the idea. I have no idea right now how he is going to end up at the alter.
Right now the plan is to have the BMs walk down the aisle escorted by groomsmen (we have an odd number, so one lucky lady will get two guys!) and then me with my parents. We sadly have no age-appropriate children in our lives to be flower girl and ring bearer. I think the best man will just hold on to the rings, but not sure yet.
Post # 4
My husband wanted his parents to walk him down the aisle, so this is how we did it.
For our processional it was:
Groom with his parents
MOH (matron)+GM 3
MOH (maid)+ Best Man
Me and my dad.
He walked down with his mom on his arm and his dad right behind them because the aisle was too narrow for them to walk all 3 together.
Post # 5
Tee hee… I just figured this out (from the walking alone thread). Mom and dad are going to walk me halfway, and I’m walking the rest of the way.
He’ll walk with both of his parents…
Post # 6
@ katrina — we are totally on the same page here! I feel bad that his mom will never have a daughter! She is one of four girls in her family so she is such a girly girl … I try to involve her as much as possible!!
@rosy and doctor — Was he totally fine with this? My thing is that my fiance thinks it’s "odd" since he hasnt’ seen it done before. I’m trying to remind him that our ceremony is going to be different then 90% of the ones we’ve been anyway to since it’s not in a church! Might as well add some wonderfully personal aspects to it too!
Post # 7
I have thought about it but we havent really talked about it yet. Im thinking my FI, his best man and officiant will come in from the side and stand at the front. Our officiant is his brother and his best man is his other brother so I thought that would be nice. Then our grandparents would walk in, followed by his parents, my mom, then the BM and GM paired off, MOH walks alone, ring bears, flower girls then me with my dad.
Post # 8
HB- fiance is really tight with his family. One of the points of discussion we had was because he *really* wants to do a mother son dance, but I really don’t want to do a father daughter dance. This was a great compromise to involve and honor his parents… And he and his mom can dance at some point (without an announced moment) at the reception.
Post # 9
I am not sure yet, but I think:
– Most groomsmen up front waiting
– FI and FMIL
– My mom with one of my brothers on each arm
– Bridesmaids (not escorted)
– Flower girl
– Me and dad
Post # 10
HB- my husband actually wanted it when our DoC suggested it. I didn’t really want him to do it- I wanted to keep it traditional. So yeah- he was fine with it.
Post # 11
Here is my processional order
Officiant (who is his uncle, a minister, but our wedding is secular)
His dad & his grandma
FI & his mom
Best Man & his gf (who is not a BM but is carrying our candles… she will sit in the front pews)
BM & GM
BM & GM
BM & GM
BM & GM
MOH (unescorted. I want her to stand out)
My mom & My dad (who will wait for me at the beginning of the pews)
Me (alone for the first 5/6 steps, then I join my parents, who will walk me the down the aisle together)
I wanted everyone to have a part in the processional (while music was playing and all) and I wanted both of my parents to walk me, but also wanted to walk into the chapel by myself (as an mini-ode to my independence). I suggested for both of his parents to walk him and both he and his mom said no.
Post # 12
our processional will go like this:
grandparents already seated
Mother of bride and brother of bride
Groomsmen one at a time
Bridesmaids one at a time
Me and my father
We are mainly doing it this way because its pretty standard and we didnt have any strong feelings about how we wanted it – besides the groomsmen and bridesmaids walking down individiually. i think its great when people have ideas of how to make little details of their wedding unique. if its something that you care about, you should definitely have it however you want!
Post # 13
Hmm….I haven’t thought too much about it yet. Our wedding location is outside, but it has two sets of stairs going up to it. Maybe my fiance can come up the one set of stairs (closest to the patio part where we’ll say our vows) and I’ll come up the back stairs and walk down the aistle…..
Post # 14
I think it’s nice when parents walk both the bride and groom down the aisle. My parents are divorced and don’t get along (14 years later!), so I nixed the aisle.
We’re getting married in a park, so we’ll either set the chairs up in a circle or spiral – I want to stand at the top of a circle, he wants to stand in the middle of a spiral. We need to practice with some chairs to see which works better. The bridal party will enter before us and remain standing until my fiance and I walk in. They’ll sit, we’ll get started.
At least that’s the plan for now. 🙂
Post # 15
I honestly don’t know how he got to the alter, other than he did not have anyone walk him down the aisle. As for us girls, my BMs walked in, shortest first, MOH last, then the plan was my FG & RB would walk down hand-in-hand like they did at the rehearsal (but instead, the RB started crying & we just let them go – they cut through the crowd and made their way to the front. Last, I walked in with my sister (dad died years ago & my mom chose not to come to the wedding).
Post # 16
I am using a recording of Apocalyptica’s Nothing Else Matters for everyone. At the very beginning of the song, the menfolk will walk to the front. Pause, then the BMs, then finally me and my escort.