Post # 1
I’ve never started a post on a board, but need some advice. I want a non-traditional song to walk down the aisle, and have contemplated all sort of ideas. I keep coming back to the same song, but unfortunately, my FI is not on board….
I’d love to walk down the aisle to an instrumental version of "Edelweiss." We’ll have four-piece string quartet, and I think it would be unbelievably beautiful and moving. I love the song, love The Sound of Music, and feel very sentimental. It’s a beautiful melody, and the waltz beat would be great for walking to. My mom, dad and sister all agree. My fiance is worried people will think it’s cheesy, be thinking about TSOM the whole time, or think about Hitler/Nazi Germany (??). (He didn’t grow up watching TSOM every weekend like me!). I’ve tried to remind him it’s about loving one’s home, and about the blossom of new, pure life in the Spring.
So I’m taking a poll- what do you think? Have I totally lost all sanity?? Be honest, because I realize I may be completely off the mark and he may be right. But if I’m not totally insane, I need some support to argue my case! Thanks in advance for your thoughts!
Post # 3
I love the idea – how beautiful and with the strong quartet – OMG I’m teary-eyes thinking about it.
I think FH is over thinking it a bit – I would NEVER thing Nazi’s when hearing it, I sang it in elementary school at my holiday programs… 😉
Post # 4
I think that’s a lovely idea.
Our processional music will be the original score from a motion picture, too!
Somtimes, there is just music that fits your mood and written so well in the movies.
I don’t like the traditional music for weddings, and think it’s a bit depressing. Edelweiss is a sweet, endearing song that I think would sound amazing by a string quartet.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2007 - Hyatt Lodge, Oak Brook IL
Go for it!
I think its a lovely choice, and I don’t think ANYONE will be thinking about Nazis when you walk down the aisle… especially your soon-to-be-hubby! =)
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2007 - Bride's family summer home in the Adirondacks
Yeah, I think it’s a beautiful song and people will probably think breifly of the movie in an "oh yeah, it’s THAT song" way but I am sure no one’s going to be fixating on Nazis!!!! I walked down the aisle to a song from the English Patient soundtrack, which isn’t the most happy go lucky movie, and the people on screen when the song is playing (Hana & Kip) even break up before the movie’s over. But my thinking was "really pretty song!" and if anyone recognized it they probably just thought of the movie in general, not getting into the specifics. I am really babbling on here, but the point is just that I think Edelweiss would be a beautiful song to walk down the aisle to, especially as played by a string quartet!
Post # 7
Well, I think you’re both kind of right: it’s beautiful song, and if I heard it I would get all misty. But I would get misty because I would be thinking of The Sound of Music, so your FI is right that it is what everyone will be thinking (Nazis might be exaggerating a bit). Whether this is "cheesy" depends on your crowd–do they love the movie or hate it?
Ultimately, though, if your FI is dead set against it, I think you should just let it go. It’s his wedding, too, and do you really want him standing at the end of the aisle thinking, "Gee, I hate this song"? I really wanted to recess to "Linus and Lucy" but my FI hated the idea–said we’d be starting our marriage to the theme from a cartoon, as if that were a bad thing :-)–so I let it go.
Post # 8
as someone who is jewish and who could *potentially* be offended, i think you should go for it! if it’s something that means alot to you, that’s great. i watched TSOM a whole lot too. =) i don’t think people would be offended, but people are offended by the smallest things. it’s nice of your FI to be thinking of others’ feelings though!
Post # 9
I think it’s a really sweet idea, creative and unique!
Post # 10
In the movie, it’s sung as an ANTI-Nazi protest, with the Captain celebrating his native Austria rather than adopting a new Nazi position and persona. The song does make me think of Nazis — of standing up to them, and affirming the value of the gentle, simple things in life. I’d totally walk to that. (And, for what it’s worth, I heard that "Here Comes the Bride" was written by a notorious anti-Semite, and I know Jewish friends who say they’d never have THAT played at their wedding, though it’s certainly become "traditional.")
Post # 11
Go for it!! I am walking down the aisle to an intrumental piece by the Crash Test Dummies. My dad balked at the idea ("Dummies? Seriously??" he said) but I love that album and my fiance and I bonded over it when we were kids, so I’m going for it!
Although I will pause and say had my fiance been totally against it, I may have changed my mind. I agree with someone previously who said that you don’t want him thinking, "Gah, I hate this song!" You should talk to him about a little more and find out just how opposed he is to it.
Post # 12
do it. it’s beautiful. this is one of those times where you need to make the executive decision.
Post # 13
GO FOR IT!!!
that song brings tears to my eyes – it really is beautiful!
p.s. i also heart TSOM – during my portion of the slideshow, i’m going to have "How Do You Solve a Prblem like Maria" playing!!!
Post # 14
I think it’s a great idea and you should walk down the aisle to Edelweiss for sure. I don’t have a problem with traditional music for a processional, but I would prefer something non-traditional as well so I totally get where you’re coming from. Plus it sounds like this song has some real sentimental meaning to you. To be honest, actually, yes it’s your fiance’s wedding too and I think he should be involved in wedding decisions that actually matter to him, but I think you should get to pick the song that *you* walk down the aisle to. I don’t think his reasons for protesting this one are really going to be a problem and I definitely don’t think the song will be perceived as cheesy or remind anyone of Nazis.
You might consider showing him this thread of answers?
Post # 15
I always cry at that part of the movie. When I think of that song, I think about a man trying to express his deep and abiding love for his country, his way of life, and his belief in those things even in the face of losing them. And I think of the courage of the audience in joining him and supporting him. And mostly, I think of his wife, who steps in to take over for him when for a moment he can’t go on, and the strength that gives him. I think it is a beautiful reminder of what marriage is supposed to be – a partnership that will sustain you even in times of terrible trouble, and a love that urges you to step up to help and support your partner in large things and small.
And plus, its a beautiful song. Like most simple melodies, you can do a lot with it in the arrangement. If I was there, I would cry.
Post # 16
Maybe your FI just needs to watch TSOM with you? We all love it in my family. My BIL had never seen it all the way through, and thought we were nuts. My sister took him (in London) to the sing-along version that they do. Now he is a die-hard fan like the rest of us.
By the way, I know I’m not the only one who cries. I saw the stage version, and everybody in my row was sniffling.