Post # 1
so i have been trying to figure out which order would be best for our wedding..
we are having our ceremony outdoors on the lakes edge, with 4 bridesmaids. i have only ever been to weddings where the bridesmaids lead the bride, but our celebrant has suggested that i (bride) lead first, that way i would have my maid of honor carry my train. i like that idea but dont want my guests to be like “what is going on” or “thats weird”..
i would love some opinions, and like to know how you organized the processional..
Post # 3
I’ve never seen a bridesmaid/maid of honor carrying a train as a bride walks down the aisle, so I agree that would be weird. Bridesmaids go first, then MOH, and then bride/father.
Post # 4
@manzie: Does your train actually need to be carried, like Kate Middleton? I think most brides today have someone straighten it before they walk and let it flow on its own. If needed a bridesmaid can straighten it again at the alter.
Post # 5
@manzie: Where in the world are you? Bride first is fairly common in UK and Australian weddings, see e.g. Kate Middleton. If your celebrant suggested it, he or she must have seen a few weddings which do it this way.
Post # 6
@paula1248: im in australia lol
Post # 7
Do you want your BM to carry your train so it doesn’t get dirty? Unless you’re worried about reselling the dress I probably wouldn’t do that. I feel like it would ruin the effect to have someone behind you.
Post # 8
@manzie: Then guests will almost certainly have seen the bride come first.
Bride first is the traditional British custom (see Debrett’s etiquette guide http://www.debretts.com/weddings/ceremonies/ceremony-highlights/entrance-of-the-bride.aspx ), and since Australia has inherited a lot of British customs it’s quite common here.
I went down the aisle first followed by my BMs, though I only had two. I guess the reasoning is the wedding is about the bride, the girls coming after are her attendants.
Of course BMs first (the American custom) is fine too and also common here. (And it’s not a new trend either, I remember seeing it when I was young in the 80s). You can do either.
Post # 9
Like a few others have pointed out it’s tradition in the UK for the bride to go first, but I’ve still decided to do the opposite in my (British) wedding – it’ll be pageboy, bridesmaids, maid of honour and then me. I just think it works better – the bridesmaids get their ‘moment’, and I feel like it gives more of a build-up to my entrance! But then I don’t have the kind of dress that needs someone to carry my train – if I did I’d probably have my maid of honour go behind me to do that, as I don’t have any flower girls. My mother was initially a bit thrown as she sees this as the American way of doing things, but it’s becoming increasingly common here so people really won’t be that confused.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@manzie: The only one I have ever seen carry the train is, perhaps, a flower girl. Even then, usually it is just behind the bride and everyone goes ahead of her.