Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
Should our officiant have an escort? She has a teenage son who could escort her, and I think that would be sweet, but then FI will walk alone. Did your FI walk alone? I don’t want him to escort her, but I had originally assumed they would walk down side by side.
Everything I can find online says it’s most traditional to have the men and officiant enter by a side door, but our venue doesn’t have a side door. And I really wanted the maids to come down with the men.
Here’s what I’ve got:
FMIL & FFIL
My mom and my uncle
Officiant, escorted by son
Officiant, unescorted, walks down side by side with F
Maids & Men in pairs
MOH & Best Groomswoman, side by side
Me and my dad
Post # 2
we’re having a friend-officiated, secular ceremony in a historic greenhouse. there are two side doors about halfway down the aisle- the south door is the one guests will use to enter- and there is a door at the end of the aisle. Our order is as follows:
FI’s grandmother escorted by FBIL
MOB escorted by my brother
MOG escorted by FOG
Me with my dad
Is the officiants son anyone significant to you? If not, then I say have her walk in next to FI. If so, then have FI walk in with FMIL with FFIL walking behind them- I see that a lot.
Post # 3
After working in ministry for many years, I have never seen an officiant be escorted down the aisle with their family member as part of the procession. Not saying it can’t be done, just that I’ve not ever seen it.
Yes, it is normal for the officiant to enter from a side door with the groom prior to the start of the processional when the GM are processing with the BM. (when they are not, they enter with the officiant and groom) The other option we often use would be for the minister and groom to casually walk down the aisle (if there was no other side aisle or entrance) after the grandparents – parents were seated and upon their arrival at the front the processional music would begin with the BM escorted by GM – flowergirl and bride with her escort
But hey nothing is set in stone and can definitely be adapted to whatever fits your situation best. For my own outdoor wedding, our officiant waited in the front row for the start of the ceremony and just casually stood up and walked over to the altar area as the processional music began and my partner entered processing down the aisle with her parents – followed by the BMs and GMs – followed by myself escorted by my son.
Post # 4
AllyCRN: I have never heard of an officiant being escorted, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be done.
Our officiant will be walking in solo. My FI wishes to walk in with his brother who is Best Man, so they will be walking in side by side.
What does your officiant want?
Post # 5
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
mindyd: Thanks for your help 🙂 I really want the processional music to start and for my FILs to be the first, followed by my mother. All of our grandparents are not mobile enough to be part of it, otherwise they would preceed our parents.
Astra: Our officiant is the most easygoing person ever. She has no preference about basically anything (other than the obvious, which is that our beliefs align with hers). Which is nice, but it also means I have more decisions to make. And there are already too many of those.
Post # 6
I’ve never seen an officiant being escorted. Whenever I see the GMs escorting the BMs down the aisle the groom always walks in alone.
I would have the officiant walk in and then have your FI walk in alone (or with his parents if he chooses) after the officiant.
Post # 7
I have never seen an officiant escorted before. Generally speaking the bridal party and close family, like grandparents, parents, close uncle/aunts I have seen being escorted or seated by the groomsmen and bestman/groom. Like a previous post suggestted, you can have the officiant walk in and then have FI walk alone(or with parents to their seats). Or you can have the officiant and your FI walk together(FI doesn’t have the escort the Officiant)