Post # 1
Having the first bit of extended downtime today I am trying to start planning our cemermony and I’m quickly getting overwelmed & frustrated. I can’t find firm answers to some things relating to the processional online. If anyone can answer the following questions for me I’d be really appreciative. Also, I know that there are technically no rules, and I can do whatever I want – but I want to know what the common or standard is.
Mother of the Bride – is she usually part of the processional? Is she escorted or does she walk alone?
Bride – is she usually escorted or is it common for her to walk alone?
Mother of Groom – is she usually part of the processional? Is she escorted or does she walk alone?
Father or the Groom – is he usually part of the processional? Does he walk alone or escort someone (maybe mother of the groom)?
Sibliings of bride & groom that are not bridesmaids/groomsmen – are they part of the processional or do they just have assigned (vip) seating or neither?
Escorts in general – Are non wedding party people ever escorts?
Our People, MY side
1 MOH, 1 BM
2 brothers (1 married)
Two Nephews, age 16 & 12. Two nieces age 12 & 5
1 Uncle close enough to fill role if needed (my dads only living brother, I might like to include him somehow)
Our people, HIS Side:
1 BM, 1 GM
1 Step Sister, married (she’s preg with a due date of our wedding day so not sure we should assign her w/anything?)
1 Step Brother, engaged
1 Uncle, officiating
1 mom & 1 step dad (only dad)
Thank you Bees!!
Post # 3
Honestly, you really can do whatever you want! If you want to walk alone, walk alone – if you want to be escorted (by whomever) then you can do that, too. If you want a longer processional, you can include non-wedding party people (like parents and siblings and grandparents); if you prefer a shorter processional, just have the wedding party walk down.
Usually if close family members (parents/siblings) aren’t in the wedding processional, then they do have reserved seats in the front rows.
My processional will be:
1. Our officiant
2. Groom + 3 groomsmen following – to stand up at front
3. FSIL + her husband (not in wedding party) – to sit in reserved seats
4. FMIL + FFIL – to sit in reserved seats
5. My Brother escorting My Mother – to sit at reserved seats
6. My 3 bridesmaids – to stand up at front
7. My Father and I
I’m not using any escorts – and I’ve never been to a wedding with escorts – because I’m confident that people can find seats on their own and I’ve never really understood the point of escorts anyway! However, it’s my understanding that escorts are usually non-wedding party people.
I would definitely avoid including a pregnant women with a due date of your wedding day in your wedding party or assigning her any duties. It’s just so unpredictable and you don’t want to have to scramble around to find a replacement if she goes into labor.
Post # 4
@leahthehun: Thanks for the scoop! I think I would like my brothers to escort me down the isle because I’m shy as it is and they’ll help deflect the attention on me! Plus I adore them 🙂 Then we’ll just add our mothers to the processional:
Groom’s mom, escorted by husband/groom’s step father
Bride’s mom, escorted by best man
Bridesmaid, walks alone
Matron of Honor, walks alone
Bride, escorted by two bothers
Voilà! Query solved.