(Closed) Pro/con for +1s?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you let guests bring a +1?
    yes : (16 votes)
    59 %
    no : (11 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    I didn’t vote because there was no it depends.

    +1s are not required by etiquette for anyone not married, engaged or living together. However I do think it is courteous to extend +1s to anyone who wouldn’t know anyone else there, and to out of town guests.

    In my case we did +1s for the above listed and for the 3 or so friends that aren’t married or engaged. Only because it worked out easy enough for us, since there are so few singles. But no dates for cousins we barely see, etc.

    Post # 4
    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    I vote yes for plus 1’s.

    I know the wedding is your day and your guests should be there for you, but they are supposed to have a great AMAZING time enjoying themselves too and truly enjoy the party you’ve worked so hard for.

    Going alone, making small talk with strangers all night… doens’t exactly breed those reactions the majority of the time.

    If you can, plus 1 is a wonderful thing.

    Also, you may be the reason for your friends getting married in the future! Weddings are very romantic 🙂

    Post # 5
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I also didn’t vote because there was no “it depends”. We are extending +1s to all of our guests. For my side, it’s a destination wedding so they’ll be more than welcome to bring someone with them to enjoy peak color season in MI! We’re looking at about 175 invites, including all +1s.

    Post # 6
    533 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Sorry, I also didn’t vote because I also think “it depends”.  I am allowing a +1 for my birdal party (only 1 person is single out of the whole group, so I don’t want her to feel left out, and I will know the person she is bringing).

    Other than that, there will be no +1, mainly because we are trying to keep our number low so we don’t go over budget.  I have had to cut some people that I probably would have liked to invite if it was in the budget. So I don’t want to have other people bring +1 when I probably have never met them when I could be having people that I really want there.  But I will warn you….this may cause “discussions”, especially if it family members that want to bring the +1 (cousins).

    All the Best!!!

    Post # 7
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Our policy is that spouses and long term girlfriends/boyfriends were invited on the same invitation. Also, if someone goes out of their way to ask to bring a date, I’d probably let them. But we didn’t do any of that “and Guest” stuff.

    Post # 8
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    I voted “no” because ALL my guests are *my* guests: I invite them by name, send them their own separate invitations if they live at different locations (or live at the same location but aren’t a social couple), and consider them welcome for their own sake. But I make a point of getting to know my guests personally, and inviting both members of any socially-acknowledged couple to any “couples” event — both as my guests, never as a nameless “plus-one” or as a guest-of-a-guest.

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