Post # 1
My wedding is on Monday (yay!) and I’m quite ready for it to be over, but I’ve seemed to find one more thing to stress about.
I work as a paralegal for a law firm. I dress business attire while at work, which covers ALL my tattoos. One of my bridesmaids (who also is a paralegal and on my team) is the only one at work who is aware of the extensiveness of my tattoos.
I have a chest piece, half sleeve, back tattoo, legs, hip, side, etc. Its not just one or two. LOL
Of course, it is etiquette to invite your boss. I have two shareholders I work for, one who recently just got promoted to shareholder status and I am his sole assistant. I invited both of them, as well as extended the courtesy of inviting the other attorneys on our team (because it would have been awkward if I had invited only some and not others).
My anxiety right now is because I’m REALLY concerned with them viewing me as different based on my tattoos. The wedding will be the first time they see me NOT in work attire.
Has anyone out there had this situation before? What was the reaction and was there a different tone at the work place?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@heathuhhhhwebbbb: I think they might be surprised at first but ultimately they already know you as a hard worker and a good person so it shouldn’t change their perception of you.
I work in a law firm also and my boss is not a fan of tattoos, but as long as their covered at work it’s none of her business! At your wedding it’s your choice to let them show and from the location of some of yours I assume they won’t all be showing.
Post # 4
@heathuhhhhwebbbb: I agree with PP – if they already like you and know you’re a hard worker, I think they may be initially surprised, but it shouldn’t hurt your career.
Congrats on your upcoming wedding by the way!! I want to see recaps lol.
Post # 5
I did not it was proper etiquette to invite your boss to your wedding. Do you normally hang out with him/her outside of work?
Post # 7
I invited my boss also as a courtesy, but I’m not so much worried about him seeing my tattos as him seeing me have a few drinks! (or seeing him have a few drinks for that matter!)
We have a good relationship tho, and he knows I’m a hard worker and that my tattoos or a few drinks at my wedding aren’t going to change that,
I bet your bosses will mention it when you return back to work, but oh well!!
Post # 8
And I read somewhere at some point in my life that it was etiquette. My source may have been incorrect, but I felt it was courtesy.
No, him and I do not socialize outside work besides corporate events (Company Christmas Party, Birthday Lunches, etc.)
@FortiesFlare: At the Christmas party last year, I got to see my boss pretty drunk. So I’m not worried about that. LOL 😉
Post # 9
@peachacid: I didn’t know this was the case either.
But to answer your question @heathuhhhhwebbbb:, no there is nothing to worry about. How you conduct your self at work speaks volumes and your body art should not change any of that. This is your personal event.
Don’t stress about it! You are almost there! Whoohoo.
Post # 10
@canarydiamond: Thank you! And I’ll post recaps, no worries. 🙂 I’m super anxious/giddy/nauseous/excited!
Post # 11
@heathuhhhhwebbbb: One “not-just-one-or-two” tattooed woman to another: *please* let your boss see you as you are. I work in corporate America, and until I had my hands tattooed, not a soul there knew I had any tattoos at all. I dress super conservatively, and my chest/neck/throat were not public knowledge. When my supervisor found out, I was pleasantly surprised to find out that her son actually is a tattoo artist and she really has an appreciation for their work. Never in a million years did I expect that to be her reaction :-p
Post # 12
@badabing88: Awesome story! Makes me feel a little more relieved. hahah! 🙂 Except I’ve heard my boss say he would never let his daughter get tattoos. LMAO
The “new” shareholder I work for actually asked me for advice on where to get a tattoo one time cause he saw the one on my wrist once. LOL He isn’t the one I’m worried about though. 😉
Post # 13
I wouldn’t worry about it. I work with the public sometimes, so I would expect my assistant to keep any tattoos covered (though I know she has none). But if I found out she had a bunch that I never knew about because she was professional enough to keep them covered at the office and keep her personal life out of the office, I’d be happy, not think differently of her.
Also – I didn’t invite my boss or anyone from work. 🙂 Figured it’d be awkward anywhere I drew the line and no one really wanted to drive 2 hours on a holiday weekend and feel like they had to get a gift, etc.
Post # 14
@heathuhhhhwebbbb: LOL: we were at a golf tournament this weekend and the owner of my BFs company was there with his family. I was in a sundress so my tattoos were out in the open, and his wife started asking me questions about them. The owner then chimed in to their 15 year old daughter and said, jokingly, “now dont YOU go and do that!” 😉
Post # 15
I work in a law firm and they were surprised, but didn’t care (as long as I continue to cover them haha).
Post # 16
@almostmrsj: The boss who I’m concerned with who might care, would have gotten super offended if I didn’t invite him. LOL And we are totally date twins (off by a year)!
@badabing88: I’ve met up with a couple of the lawyers outside of work and their reaction to my tattoos are, “So…I see that your work attire covers up A LOT.” hahah! 🙂