Post # 1
I wasn’t sure which category to use, so I went with traditions. This is a remarriage for me. Last time, I did not change my name. I was established professionally as a lawyer in private practice, and my ex didn’t care, so I kept my name. Now, I work for the government, so it will be easier to chance. I only have 1 client, and I don’t have other attorneys and clients trying to find me and court cases to worry about. My FI really wants me to change, so a little reluctantly, I am going to change.
What are you planning to do?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Nope. By the time we got married I had already built a reputation and published under my name. There was no way I was starting over again with name recognition and reputation building just because I got married.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I’m also an attorney. I fully changed my name the first time I got married and I regretted getting rid of my maiden name. This time I decided to make my maiden my middle name and my husband’s name my last name. The name I am listed with the state bar is FirstName MaidenName MarriedName and I use the full name when introducing my self in court and signing court documents. At home I just plain Mrs. MarriedName though.
Post # 4
My DH did not expect me to change my name when we married. He left the decision entirely to me. However, I did choose to incorporate DH’s name into mine but wasn’t prepared to re-establish myself professionally with a new surname. So I hyphenated but did it HISNAME-MYNAME. That way my own, maiden surname, comes last and I still Google up properly! Also, if I choose, I can just introduce myself by the much shorter name I was always known by.
Post # 5
I’m a lawyer and I changed my name. It was a strange transition at first, but it’s been close to a year now and pretty much everyone has been able to make the switch. I work for a legal services provider, so they changed my name in the directory, I informed my clients as I saw them and put my new name on my voicemail. It wasn’t that hard – though it was weird practicing under my maiden name for a few months after the wedding while I was waiting on the bar to approve my name change request.
Post # 8
Nope. Even if we had gotten married years ago while we were still in school I would not have changed my name.
Post # 6
beachbride1216: Actually, this is exactly what I am planning to do. I will use both last names, with no hyphen, on all professional correspondence.
Post # 7
I am not sure how long it takes for our bar/supreme court to process a name change request. I guess I’ll submit the paperwork right after we marry.
Post # 9
Nope — I did not want to, DH did not want me to, and I was already published under my maiden name.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I did – but my first publication came out right before our wedding so I published under my new married name. I think I’ll have less problems “transitioning” now and I won’t have to worry about the possibility of my H index being affected!
Post # 11
Most of the older women in my family are established professionals, and none have changed their names. My aunt is a dentist and actually practices alongside my uncle (her husband), so it really wouldn’t have been weird or difficult for her to change. People would still have been able to find her if she had changed her name, but she kept her maiden name because she felt pride in her own name.
I think it’s the influence of my grandmother, who was a doctor, and kept her name at a time when most women simply did not consider their name a choice. She was very proud of being a woman in her profession, and spoke about her name as linked to her identity quite a bit. She was also one of the first Jewish women to study medicine at her university, so I think that set the tradition for women in my family.
I will be finishing law school before I’m married, but my FI and I are changing our names to a portmanteau of our respective last names. I’ve experienced a lot of raised eyebrows from women in my family, as well as my female friends.
I realize it’s going to be difficult to adjust to a new name, and that so many of my accomplishments are going to be lost (on google, anyway), but having a unified family name, especially in the egalitarian way that my FI and I are pursuing it, is really important to me.
I just think it’s funny that I’m going against tradition by actually changing my name.
Post # 12
flowercrowns: I have a friend who did a combines name and both she and her husband changed. I always kind of liked it.
Post # 13
I am extremely traditional, but my first name and my maiden name are Italian and they just fit together, how ever much I would like to change my name to his, it just does not fit….
Post # 14
Mrs.Sawyertobe: I will either hyphenate or retain my maiden name alone. People can refer to me casually as Mrs. SoAndSo and I will not take offense.
Post # 15
I am not a doctor or a lawyer. But i am a professional in the federal government, and I am over 30. I changed my name.
If I was published, I probably would have kept my maiden name.